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"You kind of have to interrupt in group conversations or you will never talk at all." It depends on the group of course, but when it is made up of people, who

"You kind of have to interrupt in group conversations or you will never talk at all." It depends on the group of course, but when it is made up of people, who also want to listen - you don't have to interupt someone. It is enough to use your body language to signal, that you have something to say and there will cone a natural pause for your turn. And this is something, you can actually train. Your pose, your standing, your face expression, your gestic, etc.

hammock 4y ago
Good luck with that on a zoom call
- borski 4y ago
  Zoom calls are their own brand of awful, and they are almost-by-definition not conducive to productive conversation. I’d argue conference calls that are audio-only (and thus full duplex, using actual phones) are actually far superior.
  - xur17 4y ago
    Google Meet has the concept of "raising your hand" by clicking a button, which we've used in meetings at work with a fair amount of success. I've also had luck by literally raising my hand on the video (one of the reasons video is actually quite useful for conference calls). And raising your hand doesn't have to be like when you were in school, it can be as subtle as very slightly raising a finger or 2 (body language).
    - a4isms 4y ago
      Zoom has the “raise your hand feature,” and it manages a queue of people who have raised their hands so that they can speak in order. We use this at work, it is especially great for large meetings which otherwise can devolve into chaos. A small but interesting feature is that each participant can turn on an option where if the software thinks they are physically raising their hand, it behaves as if they clicked the “raise hand” button. I like it. I don’t use Google Meet, perhaps it has similar functionality.
    - borski 4y ago
      You’re right, it doesn’t have to be obvious - but if you do it like you did in school, others will usually chuckle and you’ll lighten the mood in the room a bit. I’m a bit of a “funny guy” and so that always works for me, but YMMV of course.
borski 4y ago
In a group setting that is particularly prone to overspeaking, I find literally raising your hand always works. Someone inevitably notices quickly, points it out, everyone chuckles and shuts up, and you suddenly have the floor.
- hutzlibu 4y ago
  Yes, that works and I included it under gestic.. Raising a finger in a moment when the current speaker notices, is a more decent variant. But I also stood with my hand literaly raised for quite some time and waited until the agitated speaker(s) stopped and finally listened to what I had to say. Or not and I simply left, but that is not always possible.
  - msrenee 4y ago
    As I hit reply, I realized we're talking about different fingers, but that actually works very well amongst my coworkers. There's a nice break where every laughs their asses off and then you have the floor.
bilsbie 4y ago
I find the hard part is when someone stops talking and everyone else is ready to say something. You kind of have to talk over everyone else for a few seconds until they give up? I’ve found that’s the only way I can ever say anything in certain groups but it still feels wrong.

hammock 4y ago

Good luck with that on a zoom call

borski 4y ago
Zoom calls are their own brand of awful, and they are almost-by-definition not conducive to productive conversation. I’d argue conference calls that are audio-only (and thus full duplex, using actual phones) are actually far superior.
- xur17 4y ago
  Google Meet has the concept of "raising your hand" by clicking a button, which we've used in meetings at work with a fair amount of success. I've also had luck by literally raising my hand on the video (one of the reasons video is actually quite useful for conference calls). And raising your hand doesn't have to be like when you were in school, it can be as subtle as very slightly raising a finger or 2 (body language).
  - a4isms 4y ago
    Zoom has the “raise your hand feature,” and it manages a queue of people who have raised their hands so that they can speak in order. We use this at work, it is especially great for large meetings which otherwise can devolve into chaos. A small but interesting feature is that each participant can turn on an option where if the software thinks they are physically raising their hand, it behaves as if they clicked the “raise hand” button. I like it. I don’t use Google Meet, perhaps it has similar functionality.
  - borski 4y ago
    You’re right, it doesn’t have to be obvious - but if you do it like you did in school, others will usually chuckle and you’ll lighten the mood in the room a bit. I’m a bit of a “funny guy” and so that always works for me, but YMMV of course.

borski 4y ago

In a group setting that is particularly prone to overspeaking, I find literally raising your hand always works. Someone inevitably notices quickly, points it out, everyone chuckles and shuts up, and you suddenly have the floor.

hutzlibu 4y ago
Yes, that works and I included it under gestic.. Raising a finger in a moment when the current speaker notices, is a more decent variant. But I also stood with my hand literaly raised for quite some time and waited until the agitated speaker(s) stopped and finally listened to what I had to say. Or not and I simply left, but that is not always possible.
- msrenee 4y ago
  As I hit reply, I realized we're talking about different fingers, but that actually works very well amongst my coworkers. There's a nice break where every laughs their asses off and then you have the floor.

bilsbie 4y ago

I find the hard part is when someone stops talking and everyone else is ready to say something. You kind of have to talk over everyone else for a few seconds until they give up? I’ve found that’s the only way I can ever say anything in certain groups but it still feels wrong.