Encountered the same in dating: 20% of women are flakes, 10% are bad people, 5% really bad. 80% are good. 15-20% of women are flakes (non-maliciously unreliabl

Encountered the same in dating: 20% of women are flakes, 10% are bad people, 5% really bad. 80% are good. 15-20% of women are flakes (non-maliciously unreliable, can't keep commitments), 5-10% (half of those) are actually maliciously bad people--bad/psychotic/abusive/crazy, 1-5% (half again) really bad (like psychopath/sociopath/criminally deranged bad). 80% are good. Stick with the good! Says nothing of actual compatibility in a pair just basic good or not. That 20% of flakey (including the 10% of bad and 5% really bad) has nothing to do with you, it's not your fault nor your responsibility that they are like that, and their feelings and behavior are not your responsibility no matter how they might try to blame you for that; and there's nothing you can do to "change" them or "help" them or "better" them. And you probably can't "handle" them. If you get involved they're only going to try to hurt you (or in the case of flakes let you down) again and again. So learn the signs that work for you and filter out the rest as quickly as possible. You don't have to be mean, but you have to be clear and set boundaries. There's no pride or sense or nobility in "handling" or "tolerating" a crazy or bad person. They're just dangerous and unpleasant.