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From the other point of view, what would it mean if women will spend much less time with children. For example, if they will be some better compensated. Will ch

by zx8080 4y ago

From the other point of view, what would it mean if women will spend much less time with children. For example, if they will be some better compensated. Will children be spending time in nursery? From the financial point of view that seems to be wise for women. But what changes does it bring to the socium? For children, spending time mostly in a nursery while both parents work hard vs with mother (or both parents) is very different.

scarmig 4y ago
Of course, it's also possible for the father to deprioritize career and take on childcare duties. But that's much harder to make happen, and it's not because companies don't provide enough paternity leave.
- horsawlarway 4y ago
  I took more paternity leave than my wife took maternity. I got SO much fucking flak for it from family/friends/co-workers. Especially the older crowd (45+). The deal on paper is often not the deal you're expected to take. Opting out of a career in favor of childcare is considered a privilege reserved for woman in many circles. I'd happily be a full time stay at home dad - but I make 3x what my wife does because I went into software and she works for a non-profit. So currently we balance both full time jobs and pay for daycare. But that starts to make less sense if we have kiddo number 2 or 3 - because then daycare costs begin to eclipse her salary. The problem is that 5 to 8 years from now - all the kids can attend public school, and we'll likely both want to work full time at that point regardless of what we do now, but the person taking the gap will likely end up making less (they will be 5 to 8 years less senior & experienced).
  - tw98521358 4y ago
    In theory yes but your wife wasn’t planning to earn that much money anyway, extra 5 years at a non profit probably won’t boost earnings much if at all. That actually happens to a lot of families, the woman is often not that interested in bringing in income and just focuses on whatever she ways to do. That’s a luxury that many women get and that gets reflected in the salary averages

by zx8080 4y ago

scarmig 4y ago

Of course, it's also possible for the father to deprioritize career and take on childcare duties. But that's much harder to make happen, and it's not because companies don't provide enough paternity leave.

horsawlarway 4y ago
I took more paternity leave than my wife took maternity. I got SO much fucking flak for it from family/friends/co-workers. Especially the older crowd (45+). The deal on paper is often not the deal you're expected to take. Opting out of a career in favor of childcare is considered a privilege reserved for woman in many circles. I'd happily be a full time stay at home dad - but I make 3x what my wife does because I went into software and she works for a non-profit. So currently we balance both full time jobs and pay for daycare. But that starts to make less sense if we have kiddo number 2 or 3 - because then daycare costs begin to eclipse her salary. The problem is that 5 to 8 years from now - all the kids can attend public school, and we'll likely both want to work full time at that point regardless of what we do now, but the person taking the gap will likely end up making less (they will be 5 to 8 years less senior & experienced).
- tw98521358 4y ago
  In theory yes but your wife wasn’t planning to earn that much money anyway, extra 5 years at a non profit probably won’t boost earnings much if at all. That actually happens to a lot of families, the woman is often not that interested in bringing in income and just focuses on whatever she ways to do. That’s a luxury that many women get and that gets reflected in the salary averages