I agree a lot with the light/dark metaphor. I think a lot of these conversations, weather on HN or tv talk shows, are just bullshit being thrown back and forth

I agree a lot with the light/dark metaphor. I think a lot of these conversations, weather on HN or tv talk shows, are just bullshit being thrown back and forth to make everyone feel good. The elephant in the room is that Beauty is beauty because it's rare. If everyone where beautiful (consensus wise) it wouldn't be beautiful anymore. We would all normalize to it. Everyone is not beautiful. It doesn't mean they should be treated bad or different, but everyone's face isn't geometrically symmetrical, everyone doesn't have good lines, good skin, good body proportions, nice thick hair. We call everyone beautiful despite most people being unattractive, because we ourselves, being imperfect, would like someone else to call us beautiful. Its the lie that keeps on giving. Deep inside everyone sees someone else as ugly or unattractive but we don't want the world to see us as judgmental assholes so we bullshit each other and act like no one on earth is ugly. I always get a good laugh at the audience on Oprah who clap and cheer like crazy during before and after makeovers, and weight loss stories. "You look so beautiful Kelly! You look so much better Jennifer!" But then comfort other women who feel unattractive with "you're beautiful just the way you are"... I'm sitting there eating pizza laughing my ass off thinking, "Really?! You've all got 30 minutes of makeup on your face and you're telling her she's beautiful just the way she is.?! Had she walked out of the room, got a makeover, lost 40 pounds and walked back in, you'd all be cheering your asses off and teller her how much better she looks."... Tsk tsk Humans and their lies...