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> Clinical psychologist Camilo Ortiz, a professor at Long Island University-Post, began noticing a few years ago that some of his young patients, mostly childre
by bostonwalker 4y ago
> Clinical psychologist Camilo Ortiz, a professor at Long Island University-Post, began noticing a few years ago that some of his young patients, mostly children being treated for anxiety, would “fold very quickly” at the first sign of adversity
This is a perfect description of someone I met recently on a road trip with friends. From our first encounter he came off as feeling miserable and sorry for himself. He didn’t drink so he was the DD for our group, but he was a nervous driver and when we hit the freeway he got so nervous he was afraid to take his eyes off the road in front and wouldn’t shoulder check. Instead of confronting him and hurting his feelings we let him keep driving and we would shoulder check for him. Very dangerous and we knew it.
When we had the accident, it was minor and happened because he froze up at the wheel during a turn and continued on to hit a tree. Saddest, slowest accident I’ve ever seen or will be a part of and no one was really hurt. My immediate reaction from military and first aid training was to get all the other passengers to safety and make sure they weren’t injured. Meanwhile, he got out of the car, burst out sobbing, and literally ran away crying.
Anecdotal, but I think the lack of mental resilience and emotional resilience were strongly connected in his case.
- gearsandbeers 4y agoHow did he get a license?
- missedthecue 4y agoThe bar is not very high.
- lotsofpulp 4y ago> Instead of confronting him and hurting his feelings we let him keep driving and we would shoulder check for him. Very dangerous and we knew it. Sounds like you guys also folded. The mentally and emotionally resilient thing to do would have been to not endanger multiple lives for the sake of this anxious person’s pride.
- lostmsu 4y agoIt is dangerous to stop on the highway to change a driver.
- lotsofpulp 4y agoRelative to being driven by a person who cannot drive? Obviously, not in the driving lanes, but pulling over on a shoulder and changing drivers is not dangerous enough to make me prefer continuing with a bad driver.
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- bostonwalker 4y agoI agree, I think my friends and I were suffering from the same fear of confrontation that the article attributed to the younger generations. Learned a lot from this experience too.
- flycaliguy 4y agoHe might be going through something currently and you aren’t getting a good read on his baseline personality. That whole running away crying thing might be a clue.
- watwut 4y agoThere were always people unable to drive. The odd thing is that this guy either pretended to be able to drive or was pressured into driving despite lack of skills. He absolutely should have say no to request to drive in that state. Inability to admit limitation is an issue when it comes to driving.
- pitsnatch 4y agoAnother personal anecdote, this person sounds like an extreme case to me. No one I know around that age is that bad.