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> I am definitely not a feminist either, though. I very much want a woman who has some self respect and dignity and does not jump in bed with random men, becaus

> I am definitely not a feminist either, though. I very much want a woman who has some self respect and dignity and does not jump in bed with random men, because she thinks it is some act of self-empowerment. I think you misunderstand feminism. Promiscuity does not mean you’re necessarily a feminist. One does not imply the other.

true_religion 4y ago
It doesn’t mean that. However feminism allows for that as a choice. I think the OP doesn’t classify as feminist because they want to deny that choice in general.
- sroblok 4y ago
  No it doesn't? Non-feminist women sleep around all the time as a choice. That definition of feminism makes no sense. You are confusing feminism with sex positive. Of course feminist women that are not sex positive are exist too. Some of the people need to get out more and meet feminists in real life!
- mustafa_pasi 4y ago
  No that is definitely not my view at all. Everyone should be free to do whatever they want. I am just talking about what behaviours/views/values I find a turn-on/turn-off and what I personally seek in a partner. I do however believe that some lifestyles are healthier than others, although maybe there is no one universal best lifestyle and it depends both on circumstances and life goals to some extent.
mustafa_pasi 4y ago
"Feminist" is a bit like "socialist", indeed some would argue it is a continuation of the same tradition. There's too many meanings and too many variations. My mother was a feminist and I would not say I have views that contradict hers. There are certainly flavors of feminism which are more about empowerment of women which I would find no problem with. I am admittedly more turned off by the oversexualization of today's culture (emphasizing relationships based primarily on sex), and blame all genders for this, but I do see a lot of proclaimed feminists today pushing these kinds of lifestyles, hence my comment.

true_religion 4y ago

It doesn’t mean that. However feminism allows for that as a choice. I think the OP doesn’t classify as feminist because they want to deny that choice in general.

sroblok 4y ago
No it doesn't? Non-feminist women sleep around all the time as a choice. That definition of feminism makes no sense. You are confusing feminism with sex positive. Of course feminist women that are not sex positive are exist too. Some of the people need to get out more and meet feminists in real life!
mustafa_pasi 4y ago
No that is definitely not my view at all. Everyone should be free to do whatever they want. I am just talking about what behaviours/views/values I find a turn-on/turn-off and what I personally seek in a partner. I do however believe that some lifestyles are healthier than others, although maybe there is no one universal best lifestyle and it depends both on circumstances and life goals to some extent.

mustafa_pasi 4y ago

"Feminist" is a bit like "socialist", indeed some would argue it is a continuation of the same tradition. There's too many meanings and too many variations. My mother was a feminist and I would not say I have views that contradict hers. There are certainly flavors of feminism which are more about empowerment of women which I would find no problem with. I am admittedly more turned off by the oversexualization of today's culture (emphasizing relationships based primarily on sex), and blame all genders for this, but I do see a lot of proclaimed feminists today pushing these kinds of lifestyles, hence my comment.