Our baby will be 5 months in a few days. My partner and I both had kind of harsh upbringings (as in, our parents left us alone to cry among other things). So

Our baby will be 5 months in a few days. My partner and I both had kind of harsh upbringings (as in, our parents left us alone to cry among other things). So when we found out we were expecting, we bought a crib and said we'd be tough parents (though maybe less tough than ours). Turns out we caved. Too hard to leave a crying baby especially because, instinctively, we know that it's his only way to communicate and he doesn't really know what's going on. This line is pretty much the same as what we reasoned: > no one should ever do that to a three-month-old. They don't have object permanence, they don't know that if you're not in the room you haven't disappeared from the planet. It's psychologically damaging Anyhow we're pretty happy with the decision. Our baby hardly cries, sleeps quite well and no one is stressed out. Not getting out of bed to feed is a massive bonus. There's no rocking him to sleep, we just go to bed and he falls asleep. And hopefully less childhood trauma than we had.