Yes that's what I meant, but I don't think my statement reflected that correctly, it came as "this should be what you should do" and in a certain way, I'm argui

Yes that's what I meant, but I don't think my statement reflected that correctly, it came as "this should be what you should do" and in a certain way, I'm arguing exactly against that behavior. I apologized in a separate comment. Yes, we did a risk assessment (we were literally terrified of having the baby sleep with us), I read ~5 books about the topic before the baby was born and talked to various professionals. It was a weighted risk: me and my wife don't roll while asleep (I sleep tummy down and she sleeps tummy up), and I wake up when I have to roll. We also adopted various strategies to check on any babies movement: for example, I had an arm in physical contact with baby's body. Later on the baby just slept on mom's breasts, in which case she had full control (any movement would wake her up) at that point.