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Having an 11 month old baby I have a few observations: 1 - parents have strong feelings on this topic and sleep is important. 2 - different kids/families seem
by johndhi 4y ago
Having an 11 month old baby I have a few observations:
1 - parents have strong feelings on this topic and sleep is important.
2 - different kids/families seem to have majorly different sleep experiences in the first year
3 - I am skeptical of the literature in this field. Infant sleep feels measurable so it feels like studying it should be feasible, but we're forgetting these are little humans, not plants or bacteria cultures. People and psychologies are complicated.
4 - our baby ate a lot from a young age and was also able to sleep long lengths from a young age. Why? Probably genetics. We were lucky to not have to do formal sleep training with him; it was more a process of aligning his schedule and letting him learn how to fall asleep with less and less rocking.
- psychphysic 4y agoHumans, well life in general, is pretty damn robust. That said maybe studies haven't picked this up cause the real negative effect is when you're old and demented they put you in the cheapest home. Where the staff let you cry it out if you fall and break your hip in the night. Who the hell knows? Or will ever know.
- ryanSrich 4y agoWe have two kids. One is 3, and the other is 1. Our first was an amazing sleeper. After the first few months, she would mostly sleep in a basinet the entire night. She transitioned to a crib easily, and now sleeps in a bed for about 12 hours per night without getting up. Our second on the other hand was a complete nightmare. Crying for almost the entire night for months on end. He eventually settled down a bit, but we finally caved and let him co-sleep. He slept with us for almost the entire first year, and is just now moving to a crib. So I don't even think it's genetic. It's almost purely random.
- The_Colonel 4y agoI've heard similar anecdotes (siblings being very different in how they sleep) from many families.
- zeroonetwothree 4y agoThey aren’t identical twins so you can’t really be sure it’s not genetic.
- jiggawatts 4y agoWe heard similar stories from parents with multiple children. Sleep patterns of each child appears to be quite random.
- shaklee3 4y agosame, except our second we did cry it out and it worked like a charm. he's now 6 and never wakes up during the night.