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Sorry, but you’re wrong. Not only wrong, but confidently and smugly wrong. You think you know best but haven’t bothered to actually do any real research on this

Sorry, but you’re wrong. Not only wrong, but confidently and smugly wrong. You think you know best but haven’t bothered to actually do any real research on this topic.

lazide 4y ago
Not condoning, but at some point that's a necessary survival reflex.
spookthesunset 4y ago
What does it mean to be "wrong" in this context? Maybe they've looked at the information and decided that the pros outweigh the risks? Who gets to decide that when such a decision is well outside the scope of science or facts? Such decisions fall into a persons values and risk assessments. No expert can, nor should, make such a decision for an individual.
- Fire-Dragon-DoL 4y ago
  Yes that's what I meant, but I don't think my statement reflected that correctly, it came as "this should be what you should do" and in a certain way, I'm arguing exactly against that behavior. I apologized in a separate comment. Yes, we did a risk assessment (we were literally terrified of having the baby sleep with us), I read ~5 books about the topic before the baby was born and talked to various professionals. It was a weighted risk: me and my wife don't roll while asleep (I sleep tummy down and she sleeps tummy up), and I wake up when I have to roll. We also adopted various strategies to check on any babies movement: for example, I had an arm in physical contact with baby's body. Later on the baby just slept on mom's breasts, in which case she had full control (any movement would wake her up) at that point.
Fire-Dragon-DoL 4y ago
Hey, sorry for my tone previously, I'm particularly irrational when it comes to co-sleeping due to being treated poorly due to my choice. I did research based on 5 books and talking to professionals (extensively), my research stopped when I assessed that it's not as high risk as depicted by the verbiage used by some professionals at the hospital. This is not my field of expertise, so of course my knowledge is limited. I won't give recommendations from the medical perspective, but I will strongly suggest to reconsider the stance toward co-sleeping.

Sorry, but you’re wrong. Not only wrong, but confidently and smugly wrong. You think you know best but haven’t bothered to actually do any real research on this topic.

lazide 4y ago

Not condoning, but at some point that's a necessary survival reflex.

spookthesunset 4y ago

What does it mean to be "wrong" in this context? Maybe they've looked at the information and decided that the pros outweigh the risks? Who gets to decide that when such a decision is well outside the scope of science or facts? Such decisions fall into a persons values and risk assessments. No expert can, nor should, make such a decision for an individual.

Fire-Dragon-DoL 4y ago
Yes that's what I meant, but I don't think my statement reflected that correctly, it came as "this should be what you should do" and in a certain way, I'm arguing exactly against that behavior. I apologized in a separate comment. Yes, we did a risk assessment (we were literally terrified of having the baby sleep with us), I read ~5 books about the topic before the baby was born and talked to various professionals. It was a weighted risk: me and my wife don't roll while asleep (I sleep tummy down and she sleeps tummy up), and I wake up when I have to roll. We also adopted various strategies to check on any babies movement: for example, I had an arm in physical contact with baby's body. Later on the baby just slept on mom's breasts, in which case she had full control (any movement would wake her up) at that point.

Fire-Dragon-DoL 4y ago

Hey, sorry for my tone previously, I'm particularly irrational when it comes to co-sleeping due to being treated poorly due to my choice. I did research based on 5 books and talking to professionals (extensively), my research stopped when I assessed that it's not as high risk as depicted by the verbiage used by some professionals at the hospital. This is not my field of expertise, so of course my knowledge is limited. I won't give recommendations from the medical perspective, but I will strongly suggest to reconsider the stance toward co-sleeping.