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I don’t see a problem with this. It can be soul crushing to put tons of effort into an ice breaker only to receive no response. If this can get their attention

I don’t see a problem with this. It can be soul crushing to put tons of effort into an ice breaker only to receive no response. If this can get their attention you will still have to carry on the rest of the conversation, and eventually act normally offline as well.

082349872349872 4y ago
> to put tons of effort into an ice breaker That's the neat thing: you don't. If all still works as in my dating days, you have decided (on some shallow criteria) to approach someone, and they decide (also on very shallow criteria) whether to continue the interaction or reject immediately. Unless you have an obvious ice breaker, don't overthink it. My generation used "gotta light?/haben Sie Feuer?/t'as un briquet?" You may be surprised how effective (in the correct league) low-effort openings are.
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- zht 4y ago
  This depends a lot on how attractive you are
- dkersten 4y ago
  > My generation used "gotta light?/haben Sie Feuer?/t'as un briquet?" These kinds of generic openers don’t work on tinder unless you’re super good looking. > You may be surprised how effective (in the correct league) low-effort openings are. As a guy, I’ve never got a response from a low effort opener on a dating app except from obvious scammers, Instagram models looking for followers and bots.
  - 082349872349872 4y ago
    Oof, sounds like you all have gone back to the days of singing under balconies (or, if bollywood is to believed, recruiting a "small" crew of your closest friends to dance behind you when shooting your shot?) Good luck! [Edit: upon reflection, sounds like a solution may be to abandon tinder for RL meatspace? Last I checked, XX and XY in non-polygamous countries ought to be close to 50/50?]