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That’s fine. But here is the analogy I use (with 5 young kids): time with young kids is amazing. It’s like sugar. It’s wonderful. But the problem is, that suga

by D13Fd 4y ago

That’s fine. But here is the analogy I use (with 5 young kids): time with young kids is amazing. It’s like sugar. It’s wonderful. But the problem is, that sugar just keeps pouring in. More and more than you could ever eat. But you feel guilty and judged if you don’t eat it. And even if you like sweets, eventually you get sick of sugar and need something else - some time to yourself.

taylodl 4y ago
The OP isn't talking about time to themselves - they're talking about working through the holidays to avoid spending time with their kid. To be frank, this is a form of child abuse. I've raised three kids. I know the importance of getting some time to yourself. I know there are times kids can be chaos. I know you're all-too-frequently operating on insufficient sleep. I know they can be very trying of your patience. I also know I spent every holiday with them - and now they spend them with me.
- D13Fd 4y ago
  > working through the holidays to avoid spending time with their kid . . . is a form of child abuse. Wow. I couldn’t disagree more. This is some weird holier-than-thou helicopter parent stuff. I watch my kids all day on the weekends and on the holidays. Plus I’m with them for at least four hours a day between drop offs, dinner, and homework/after dinner activities. The post is about “extended” time off with the children - e.g. the week between Christmas and new year’s day. No definition of “child abuse” encompasses sending your kids to daycare for that week. In most cases sane parents who have their young (<5-6 year old) kids in that week are going to wind up putting them in front of the TV or other electronics for part of the time anyway, just for their own sanity. In that case they are better off at daycare for that time. Beyond that, it’s much better for the kids to have a couple of extra days of daycare and parents who are enthusiastic to see them, rather than a few days off with parents who are pulling their hair out trying to find non-tv and non-electronic ways to entertain them for something like 10 straight days. Come on.
  - taylodl 4y ago
    Dude - if you can't spend a week with your kids then you need to up your game in your parenting skills. Seriously. I'm sorry but parenting is a 24x7 job 365 days of the year. No one asked you to do it, you chose that yourself. But now that you've made that choice you gotta man up. And yes, wanting to work so you don't have to be with your kids is a form of child abuse. Sorry not sorry you don't like hearing the truth.
antisthenes 4y ago
The OP and their partner are 40 years old. They had plenty of time for themselves. They'll have plenty of more time in retirement.

by D13Fd 4y ago

taylodl 4y ago

The OP isn't talking about time to themselves - they're talking about working through the holidays to avoid spending time with their kid. To be frank, this is a form of child abuse. I've raised three kids. I know the importance of getting some time to yourself. I know there are times kids can be chaos. I know you're all-too-frequently operating on insufficient sleep. I know they can be very trying of your patience. I also know I spent every holiday with them - and now they spend them with me.

D13Fd 4y ago
> working through the holidays to avoid spending time with their kid . . . is a form of child abuse. Wow. I couldn’t disagree more. This is some weird holier-than-thou helicopter parent stuff. I watch my kids all day on the weekends and on the holidays. Plus I’m with them for at least four hours a day between drop offs, dinner, and homework/after dinner activities. The post is about “extended” time off with the children - e.g. the week between Christmas and new year’s day. No definition of “child abuse” encompasses sending your kids to daycare for that week. In most cases sane parents who have their young (<5-6 year old) kids in that week are going to wind up putting them in front of the TV or other electronics for part of the time anyway, just for their own sanity. In that case they are better off at daycare for that time. Beyond that, it’s much better for the kids to have a couple of extra days of daycare and parents who are enthusiastic to see them, rather than a few days off with parents who are pulling their hair out trying to find non-tv and non-electronic ways to entertain them for something like 10 straight days. Come on.
- taylodl 4y ago
  Dude - if you can't spend a week with your kids then you need to up your game in your parenting skills. Seriously. I'm sorry but parenting is a 24x7 job 365 days of the year. No one asked you to do it, you chose that yourself. But now that you've made that choice you gotta man up. And yes, wanting to work so you don't have to be with your kids is a form of child abuse. Sorry not sorry you don't like hearing the truth.

antisthenes 4y ago

The OP and their partner are 40 years old. They had plenty of time for themselves. They'll have plenty of more time in retirement.