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Same boat. We both count the days towards Jan 3rd when the daycare reopens. I guess it's probably because there aren't many common activities I can have with my

Same boat. We both count the days towards Jan 3rd when the daycare reopens. I guess it's probably because there aren't many common activities I can have with my two year old.

juliangoldsmith 4y ago
I'm going to assume your kid is on the other end of 2 from my daughter, even though I have no basis for that. The "terrible twos" are the year where a child changes from a baby into a person. You would think it happens slowly, but it actually happens in fits and starts. Your kid starts refusing to eat anything but chicken nuggets and cheese puffs. They start ignoring their favorite toy for one you didn't even know existed. They insist on doing literally everything. (No, you can't use the belt sander. Please put the knife down. You can't drive, you can't even reach the pedals.) They are overjoyed to help with anything except what you asked. They won't stop grabbing the enraged, growling cat. They color on your bills, letters, books, and anything else within reach. They refuse to watch anything but Paw Patrol. Nothing. But. Paw. Patrol. Then they say "You're a good dad, I love you," out of the blue. They bring you things you need, even if you didn't ask. You type on your laptop, and they type on their "laptop" next to you. They pretend to make you a 6 course dinner. They go from absolutely refusing to ever sleep in your bed to explicitly demanding it every night. Around this time last year, I played with blocks with my daughter. She would add single blocks to what I'd built and occasionally knock it all down. After a few minutes, she'd get bored and wander off. A few days ago, she asked me to play with the same blocks. She brought the bag, unzipped it, dumped them out, and started building a structure on her own. She was upset when it fell, but still liked knocking it down. She asked me for specific blocks and thanked me for getting them I guess this is all a way to say that the fun part is coming up. Give your kid all the attention you can and they'll be just fine. On a side note, a PSA about daycare: get your child in ASAP, unless they already hang around with kids their age. Around a year ago, my wife and I were worried because our daughter was a bit behind in development (especially in language). I could no longer WFH and take care of her, so we put our daughter into a nearby daycare. Almost immediately our daughter's development rocketed forward and has been great ever since.
- Macuyiko 4y ago
  Lots of recognizable stories in this answer - thanks for sharing.
brewtide 4y ago
Plenty of commonality, but you have to go to their level to achieve it. As they grow older, and as the years progress you get to slowly interject your own interests and hobbies into the shared activities and see what resonates between you and them, and go from there. It also very quickly becomes a 2 way street -- plenty to learn from them at the same time -- one just has to pay attention. Literally a growth opportunity for all parties if you embrace and then extend! (Frowned upon seemingly with say web browser standards, very positive in raising children!). Watching my 9 and 7 year old play taco vs. burrito as we speak.

Same boat. We both count the days towards Jan 3rd when the daycare reopens. I guess it's probably because there aren't many common activities I can have with my two year old.

juliangoldsmith 4y ago

I'm going to assume your kid is on the other end of 2 from my daughter, even though I have no basis for that. The "terrible twos" are the year where a child changes from a baby into a person. You would think it happens slowly, but it actually happens in fits and starts. Your kid starts refusing to eat anything but chicken nuggets and cheese puffs. They start ignoring their favorite toy for one you didn't even know existed. They insist on doing literally everything. (No, you can't use the belt sander. Please put the knife down. You can't drive, you can't even reach the pedals.) They are overjoyed to help with anything except what you asked. They won't stop grabbing the enraged, growling cat. They color on your bills, letters, books, and anything else within reach. They refuse to watch anything but Paw Patrol. Nothing. But. Paw. Patrol. Then they say "You're a good dad, I love you," out of the blue. They bring you things you need, even if you didn't ask. You type on your laptop, and they type on their "laptop" next to you. They pretend to make you a 6 course dinner. They go from absolutely refusing to ever sleep in your bed to explicitly demanding it every night. Around this time last year, I played with blocks with my daughter. She would add single blocks to what I'd built and occasionally knock it all down. After a few minutes, she'd get bored and wander off. A few days ago, she asked me to play with the same blocks. She brought the bag, unzipped it, dumped them out, and started building a structure on her own. She was upset when it fell, but still liked knocking it down. She asked me for specific blocks and thanked me for getting them I guess this is all a way to say that the fun part is coming up. Give your kid all the attention you can and they'll be just fine. On a side note, a PSA about daycare: get your child in ASAP, unless they already hang around with kids their age. Around a year ago, my wife and I were worried because our daughter was a bit behind in development (especially in language). I could no longer WFH and take care of her, so we put our daughter into a nearby daycare. Almost immediately our daughter's development rocketed forward and has been great ever since.

Macuyiko 4y ago
Lots of recognizable stories in this answer - thanks for sharing.

brewtide 4y ago

Plenty of commonality, but you have to go to their level to achieve it. As they grow older, and as the years progress you get to slowly interject your own interests and hobbies into the shared activities and see what resonates between you and them, and go from there. It also very quickly becomes a 2 way street -- plenty to learn from them at the same time -- one just has to pay attention. Literally a growth opportunity for all parties if you embrace and then extend! (Frowned upon seemingly with say web browser standards, very positive in raising children!). Watching my 9 and 7 year old play taco vs. burrito as we speak.