> If they have either of those "cultural challenges", then they are literally dropping even more work and isolation on their wifes. That is why it is egoism. N

> If they have either of those "cultural challenges", then they are literally dropping even more work and isolation on their wifes. That is why it is egoism. No, I mean the breadwinner may be stressed because their SO has such an attitude. Therefore the kids are basically always home, and no one ever gets a break. Some folks also decide to have kids and agree to parenting strategies, only later to realize they're not working. If the stay-home partner insists on "the one true way" then even counseling may not be enough. Again, the broader point is you may not have the whole picture. Try to assume good intentions, and if circumstances are undeniably out of balance look for constructive ways to help.