I don’t know if I’m weird (well, at least in this specific case), but the very act of picking an instance feels like I’m making a statement in support of that i

I don’t know if I’m weird (well, at least in this specific case), but the very act of picking an instance feels like I’m making a statement in support of that instance. If I say my email is @gmail.com I don’t feel like I’m making a statement because everyone has a gmail email address. I realise that’s kind of intrinsic to how mastodon works, but asking people to select an instance out of a whole load of them somehow feels like I’m signing up to be part of a cohesive group, which is unappealing to me. I don’t use any social media because I think they’re unhealthy, but a few people I’ve spoken to have had the same stumbling block with having to pick an instance.