I tried out FastMail and ended up deciding to self-host because they would block legitimate email even though I added a contact as instructed to "whitelist" sen

I tried out FastMail and ended up deciding to self-host because they would block legitimate email even though I added a contact as instructed to "whitelist" senders. Their support just said that the sender wasn't set up "correctly". They weren't necessary wrong but I don't care as a user, I want that email. So I enjoy the fact that my self-hosted solution only rejects emails from blocked senders or DMARC rejects. At the very least everything else goes to spam so that I can see it.