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Pro-tip for geeks: If someone asks you to dance, You. Say. Yes. It's usually doesn't matter if you don't dance well. Go out there. Have fun. It'll be fine. :)

jollyllama 4y ago
Did you read the text at all? There are plenty of reasons someone might not want to dance at any one moment and it goes through which you can explicitly say within the bounds of etiquette and how to specifically conduct yourself. The text is quite likely from some kind of ballroom dance community, but should work quite well when extrapolated to the outside world.
- hw-guy 4y ago
  I think the commenter is talking not about etiquette, but about how to live a richer life.
liotier 4y ago
And if the person seems to show interest in you, don't withdraw because it feels awkward and you want to think about it - or you 40 years-old future self will want to get back in time to kick your sorry 19 years old ass. Dive in, go with the flow, see where it goes ! (Written from a privileged heterosexual male geek perspective... I suspect that others might evaluate my take as pushing the innocent towards reckless endangerment)
justaj 4y ago
This might have been great advice before the advent of phone cameras and social media.
- solarmist 4y ago
  If you're as likely to be made into a meme as you are to win the lottery. If you stop yourself from doing things because someone might think you look silly, then you're going to end up living a very dull life. And if it does happen then embrace it, if you own it then no one can make you feel bad about it. What I've learned about social skills is that recovering from your mistakes confidently, usually by being the first one to point them out, take a jab at them, or ignore them (unless they impact someone else then apologize and move on), is the #1 social skill. By acting awkward about mistakes you make others FEEL awkward and that's what causes social rejection/teasing (not bullying that usually is different).

jollyllama 4y ago

Did you read the text at all? There are plenty of reasons someone might not want to dance at any one moment and it goes through which you can explicitly say within the bounds of etiquette and how to specifically conduct yourself. The text is quite likely from some kind of ballroom dance community, but should work quite well when extrapolated to the outside world.

hw-guy 4y ago
I think the commenter is talking not about etiquette, but about how to live a richer life.

liotier 4y ago

And if the person seems to show interest in you, don't withdraw because it feels awkward and you want to think about it - or you 40 years-old future self will want to get back in time to kick your sorry 19 years old ass. Dive in, go with the flow, see where it goes ! (Written from a privileged heterosexual male geek perspective... I suspect that others might evaluate my take as pushing the innocent towards reckless endangerment)

justaj 4y ago

This might have been great advice before the advent of phone cameras and social media.

solarmist 4y ago
If you're as likely to be made into a meme as you are to win the lottery. If you stop yourself from doing things because someone might think you look silly, then you're going to end up living a very dull life. And if it does happen then embrace it, if you own it then no one can make you feel bad about it. What I've learned about social skills is that recovering from your mistakes confidently, usually by being the first one to point them out, take a jab at them, or ignore them (unless they impact someone else then apologize and move on), is the #1 social skill. By acting awkward about mistakes you make others FEEL awkward and that's what causes social rejection/teasing (not bullying that usually is different).