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> You're equating someone's wish to not have to wait at a check out counter to being anti-social...come on. Yes, 10 minutes waiting in a hotel lobby, which is

> You're equating someone's wish to not have to wait at a check out counter to being anti-social...come on. Yes, 10 minutes waiting in a hotel lobby, which is by definition a societal space, is, well, social. Actively wanting go avoid that is, well, anti-social. Anyway, it's a losing battle at this point.

krisoft 4y ago
> Actively wanting go avoid that is, well, anti-social. Ah the epitome of social interactions. An underpaid and overworked service worker mis-hears my name, pretends to not find me in the system then gives me a card. Well worth queuing for! But you know it is a must, since if I continue the conversation with my travel companion uninterrupted all the way to our room then I am actively tearing apart the fabric of society. > Anyway, it's a losing battle at this point. Battle? Why do you care how others choose to live their life this much? Are they hurting you?
- paganel 4y ago
  Yes, it hurts me to see the social fabric tearing itself apart. It’s on us, people of “today”, to try to keep it in one place as best as we can and to pass it forward to those that will come after us. > ince if I continue the conversation with my travel companion uninterrupted all the way to our room then I am actively tearing apart the fabric of society. Yes, the social norms (of the past, at this point) say that you should interrupt the discussion with your travel companion and engage with the person from the other side of the counter (the hotel receptionist in this case).
_yb2s 4y ago
I think you are not understanding introverts. Social interaction is extremely draining for us, so we carefully manage that energy for interactions that also offer a lot of value in return, e.g. friends and colleagues. If we can reduce unnecessary interactions, this leaves more for being social where it’s valuable, making it possible for us to be pro social. I love parties, deep conversations, etc. but as an introverted person, a day of excessive unnecessary interaction makes those interactions I do enjoy no longer enjoyable, and just a chore. By managing my social energy I am able to be a warm, friendly, and outgoing social person. If you met me at a party you probably would not guess that I’m introverted, because I am not antisocial. Yet, I would be willing to pay a lot more for a hotel room where I don’t have to make small talk at a front desk while checking in.

krisoft 4y ago

> Actively wanting go avoid that is, well, anti-social. Ah the epitome of social interactions. An underpaid and overworked service worker mis-hears my name, pretends to not find me in the system then gives me a card. Well worth queuing for! But you know it is a must, since if I continue the conversation with my travel companion uninterrupted all the way to our room then I am actively tearing apart the fabric of society. > Anyway, it's a losing battle at this point. Battle? Why do you care how others choose to live their life this much? Are they hurting you?

paganel 4y ago
Yes, it hurts me to see the social fabric tearing itself apart. It’s on us, people of “today”, to try to keep it in one place as best as we can and to pass it forward to those that will come after us. > ince if I continue the conversation with my travel companion uninterrupted all the way to our room then I am actively tearing apart the fabric of society. Yes, the social norms (of the past, at this point) say that you should interrupt the discussion with your travel companion and engage with the person from the other side of the counter (the hotel receptionist in this case).

_yb2s 4y ago

I think you are not understanding introverts. Social interaction is extremely draining for us, so we carefully manage that energy for interactions that also offer a lot of value in return, e.g. friends and colleagues. If we can reduce unnecessary interactions, this leaves more for being social where it’s valuable, making it possible for us to be pro social. I love parties, deep conversations, etc. but as an introverted person, a day of excessive unnecessary interaction makes those interactions I do enjoy no longer enjoyable, and just a chore. By managing my social energy I am able to be a warm, friendly, and outgoing social person. If you met me at a party you probably would not guess that I’m introverted, because I am not antisocial. Yet, I would be willing to pay a lot more for a hotel room where I don’t have to make small talk at a front desk while checking in.