I’ve been hiring programmers for three decades. What is obvious to me is that we play a game where there is a posted set of rules such as “Don’t talk shit abou

I’ve been hiring programmers for three decades. What is obvious to me is that we play a game where there is a posted set of rules such as “Don’t talk shit about the companies that interview you and definitely don’t reveal what they told you in an interview.” We punish people for breaking these rules. But also, insiders break these rules all the time, quietly, either in “whisper networks,” or on web sites launched by startups that give people a way to post what questions companies ask when hiring, what biases various interviewers have, and so forth. What we’re punishing this person for when talking about their “oversharing” is not being enough of an insider to know the right way to play the hidden game.