She interviews several people who say this -- "well, it was basically OK for me, so I think this practice is fine." But I find it hard to trust such perspectiv

She interviews several people who say this -- "well, it was basically OK for me, so I think this practice is fine." But I find it hard to trust such perspectives as truly considered if the alternative is living for decades with the conviction that your husband did something truly monstrous to you and now you're just waking up next to him every morning like it never happened.