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(I started reading too much into that comment .. I'll pass on that.) Was hoping that the ~baited comment would elicit a discussion. What would be interesting,
by eternalban 4y ago
(I started reading too much into that comment .. I'll pass on that.)
Was hoping that the ~baited comment would elicit a discussion. What would be interesting, from a psychological pov, is to understand why our IQ drops in relationships. The pointed list of 'obvious signs' are indeed obvious. We all recognize them in other peoples' relationships! Immediately, like radar. You always know before your friend if the gf is cheating on him, just by observing. But one's own relationship is obscured by some sort of distorting effect. After it is over, years later, it is crystal clear and then you feel stupid for not seeing it. Because it was obvious, you realize.
This is the interesting psychological aspect of the matter, imo.
- simonblack 4y agoYou always know before your friend if the gf is cheating on him, just by observing. But one's own relationship is obscured by some sort of distorting effect. I don't think it's a matter of 'IQ Drop'. I think it's more an example of 'Sunk Cost Fallacy' in that we don't want to admit to ourselves that we've wasted years or decades and also many thousands of dollars on a relationship that is very likely over, but maybe, just maybe, might be able to be turned around so that it wasn't all wasted.
- metadat 4y agoHence the old adage, "Love is blind". We also want to be optimistic about the future, perhaps a result of evolutionary pressure / selection.