> Preferring a loved one to suffer, indefinitely, in order to spare your feelings... is the very definition of selfish. If by this you mean "don't blow your br

> Preferring a loved one to suffer, indefinitely, in order to spare your feelings... is the very definition of selfish. If by this you mean "don't blow your brains out", then, yes, i agree, and i wonder if you're misreading me somehow in a way that suggests that I think you ought to be able to without interruption. Otherwise, i'm having a hard time making heads or tails of what you're saying here.