I think in general parents overestimate how much what they do matters, and underestimate genetic effects. I worry that a lot of the advice here isn’t reproducib

I think in general parents overestimate how much what they do matters, and underestimate genetic effects. I worry that a lot of the advice here isn’t reproducible. My advice is to look at your own life first. If you (or the other parent) have trouble with getting addicted to things, obsessive behaviours, body dysmorphism etc you might want to take a more judicious approach with your kids. I think there are also some things that go without saying: - Don’t let kids sacrifice sleep, so no devices in the bedroom at night. - Be extremely careful with tween+ girls and visual social media. Restrict usage, educate and discuss a lot, and beyond that make a special effort to give them attention, do fun stuff, let them know they are special and important and valued during the vulnerable years. - Boys and pornography. Need to talk to them about it. I don’t know how to approach this, I’ve got about a decade to work it out.