at some point you have to realize the overwhelming majority of people you're worried about being judged by aren't people whose opinions you'd care about if they

at some point you have to realize the overwhelming majority of people you're worried about being judged by aren't people whose opinions you'd care about if they were offered to you, and that being an authentic you is more important than the judgement of strangers. A lot of people's lives could be way better if they internalized this.