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I have had adhd and autism. Thought it was a birth trait. But adulthood happened and i had been getting away more and more from those symptoms. Now it’s coming

I have had adhd and autism. Thought it was a birth trait. But adulthood happened and i had been getting away more and more from those symptoms. Now it’s coming back. And I realized it has a lot to do with parenting incorrectly. Let’s just say looking back, there is nothing you can do to adjust to a moving train with adhd. So start reducing your role. Shrink a bit. Be less manager. and be more managed if that helps. And start communicating loudly about what makes slack difficult. Very loudly. People will realize who you are without realizing you have adhd. And will adjust to how you work. So figure out how many things you can track at any one time. My max is five. So reduce your inputs to just those items. And designate one of them for colleagues.

viburnum 4y ago
Parenting?
- dchristian 4y ago
  Let me attempt to explain what I think he meant. Some families are dysfunctional. Addictions can be big here, but the personalities of the parents can drive this without any alcohol or drug use. Often, the families that look the best from the outside are the most dysfunctional inside. There is a whole rabbit warren that I'm attempting to not dive down here. Suffice to say, it's not uncommon and it's not obvious. Children in dysfunctional families often become hyper vigilant in order to control their life and avoid conflict. This works to an extent, but they become trained to constantly pay attention to everything, all the time. Which is one way to look at ADD. If you want to research this more, look up: * Adult children of alcoholics and dysfunctional families * Complex PTSD by Pete Walker * Patrick Teahan videos on YouTube
  - nashashmi 4y ago
    Pretty close. This not my anon account. So I won't be saying anything more.