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I agree with everything you're saying here. I'm sorry others do not see grit in you from their perspective. That must be a continually frustrating struggle. Ar

I agree with everything you're saying here. I'm sorry others do not see grit in you from their perspective. That must be a continually frustrating struggle. Are you able to speak more about your daily processes? How do you work to know yourself and your limits? How do you know if you're being lazy or recuperating? If grit isn't about each day then what psychological stat is?

Mezzie 4y ago
I'm not the parent commentor, but I have MS which presents a lot of similar issues. For me, the main things I use to determine my limits are: - "Does doing this increase my odds of a relapse?": There are correlations between stress and risk of relapse, so I manage my stress very closely. - "Is doing this/pushing through sustainable, or will I need to borrow energy/sleep more/create issues going forward?": This one is hard because it involves knowing oneself and one's triggers and body very well. Like I'll down a shit ton of aspirin and Benedryl to work through migraines because I know they're brought on by either quick changes in barometric pressure or my menstrual cycle, which resolve quickly and can't spiral into worse problems. MS heat intolerance, on the other hand, means I need to stop and rest if I end up too warm because my nerves will be fried until I rest even if the weather does cool down.
kayodelycaon 4y ago
> Are you able to speak more about your daily processes? My life is defined by the absence of process and discipline. It's basically managed chaos. I do what I can, when I can. The one process I have nailed down is medication. I use a pill planner and make it a habit to check it any time I can't remember if I took my medication. I use alarms because they are difficult to ignore and I can hit the snooze button if I'm busy. Reminders and calendar events don't work. > How do you work to know yourself and your limits? I've learned how my body and mind feels when I'm running low. I started with a mood tracking application, but once I learned to operate by feel, it became automatic. Once that problem was offloaded, I stopped using the app. My therapist gave me some great advice: "go with what works". If an app becomes work that I start to avoid, then it's time to switch strategies. > How do you know if you're being lazy or recuperating? I generally give myself 15~30 minutes to get started on something. If I can't manage any useful focus, I move to something I can accomplish. I may look lazy from the outside but I've had to be told by everyone (friends, family, doctor, therapist, support group, manager, etc) to slow down and take care of myself. That's been hard to accept but my productivity and happiness has greatly increased since I started doing that. > If grit isn't about each day then what psychological stat is? People aren't robots. We all have good days and bad days. There is no one stat, only patterns and trendlines. In a way, it's heartening. We can always make better decisions tomorrow. :)

Mezzie 4y ago

I'm not the parent commentor, but I have MS which presents a lot of similar issues. For me, the main things I use to determine my limits are: - "Does doing this increase my odds of a relapse?": There are correlations between stress and risk of relapse, so I manage my stress very closely. - "Is doing this/pushing through sustainable, or will I need to borrow energy/sleep more/create issues going forward?": This one is hard because it involves knowing oneself and one's triggers and body very well. Like I'll down a shit ton of aspirin and Benedryl to work through migraines because I know they're brought on by either quick changes in barometric pressure or my menstrual cycle, which resolve quickly and can't spiral into worse problems. MS heat intolerance, on the other hand, means I need to stop and rest if I end up too warm because my nerves will be fried until I rest even if the weather does cool down.

kayodelycaon 4y ago

> Are you able to speak more about your daily processes? My life is defined by the absence of process and discipline. It's basically managed chaos. I do what I can, when I can. The one process I have nailed down is medication. I use a pill planner and make it a habit to check it any time I can't remember if I took my medication. I use alarms because they are difficult to ignore and I can hit the snooze button if I'm busy. Reminders and calendar events don't work. > How do you work to know yourself and your limits? I've learned how my body and mind feels when I'm running low. I started with a mood tracking application, but once I learned to operate by feel, it became automatic. Once that problem was offloaded, I stopped using the app. My therapist gave me some great advice: "go with what works". If an app becomes work that I start to avoid, then it's time to switch strategies. > How do you know if you're being lazy or recuperating? I generally give myself 15~30 minutes to get started on something. If I can't manage any useful focus, I move to something I can accomplish. I may look lazy from the outside but I've had to be told by everyone (friends, family, doctor, therapist, support group, manager, etc) to slow down and take care of myself. That's been hard to accept but my productivity and happiness has greatly increased since I started doing that. > If grit isn't about each day then what psychological stat is? People aren't robots. We all have good days and bad days. There is no one stat, only patterns and trendlines. In a way, it's heartening. We can always make better decisions tomorrow. :)