I also got married and had kids and have gotten older and realized being a jerk is selfish. I started thinking about other people and what they could be going

I also got married and had kids and have gotten older and realized being a jerk is selfish. I started thinking about other people and what they could be going through. Physical and mental health, especially for parents, those with aging parents, those who've experienced loss. Every person is a universe. Berating someone for not reading the docs, which takes effort (!), became painful and a source of shame.