So I was just reading a book that talked about this in a way that was powerful for me, so I'm going to post an excerpt below. It's from _Your Resonant Self_ by

So I was just reading a book that talked about this in a way that was powerful for me, so I'm going to post an excerpt below. It's from _Your Resonant Self_ by Sarah Peyton. Warning, it's self-helpy, yup. It's interesting to me that you think focusing on your emotions might be a way to distract ourselves, it makes me curious about distract ourselves from what? I think some people find they actually spend a lot of time distracting themselves from their emotions, so naming and describing and locating their emotions is kind of the opposite of distracting themselves. (But distracting yourself can be a fine thing and useful coping mechanism too; in fact Peyton includes "distraction" as a method of "self-regulation" in the same section on "self-regulation" I'm about to quote from. but, I think, a different thing than naming emotions). Anyway, I'm no expert and I'm not trying to convince you, if it's not something that seems to resonate with you, then maybe it's not for you, right now anyway. But since you asked, I figured I'd post an excerpt from the thing I was just reading that touched on what you are asking about, in a way that really struck me -- although I don't know if just these few paragraphs will be as striking as the whole book so far as been on me! > If you have doubts that talking about feelings will help you, you are in good company. Research shows that most people don't believe that putting words to emotions helps at all. People don't think that it makes things better to name what's happening, even though the effectiveness of that approach can be seen with fMRI. Perhaps this is because many people cope by paying no attention to their emotions or their bodies and the naming of feelings is unfamiliar and thus uncomfortable. But the experience of naming what is happening not only works to calm us down; when it is done with a caring other it can also create relationships of warmth and trust, no matter how old we are. Bringing these relationships inside (importing them into our own brain and carrying them there as a memory) helps people feel more secure in the world. This can have unexpected long-term benefits, including improving immune system function; the sense of meaning and purpose in life; resiliency in the face of trauma, depression or posttraumatic stress; and relationships with others and with ourselves… > …Putting words to inner experience is helpful in another way, too. When people can't read the messages being sent by the body, they are in what scientists call alexithymia, or body blindness. Did you ever meet anyone who was stressed out and angry but didn't seem to realize it? They might not even have known that they had an increased heart rate or tension in their belly or that their eyebrows were pulling together. These people have a hard time knowing what their emotions are, let alone being able to talk about them. When people don't know what they are feeling, there's nothing they can do to remedy the situation. People who are body-blind show increased stress on their immune system and have a harder time with their relationships. There is also a link between being body-blind and being depressed. These people also suffer more from posttraumatic stress, and some research even shows that they have shorter lives. > To sum up, developing a conscious practice of naming emotions is one of the sweeteest and most counterintuitive forms of self-regulation (in which the brain takes care of itself without accessing external behaviors or substances, as opposed to self-management, which uses work-arounds such as addictions). When naming emotions is done with warmth, it can foster the mothering relationship between the prefrontal cortex and the amygdala that securely attached children receive from their childhoods. Happily, as people start to name what is happening, they can learn to accompany themselves through emotional experience and support themselves and their immune systems while doing so.