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Now that I've overanalyzed my feelings? Tense, anxious. And started to feel psychogenic pain while I was managing okay before. Not sure who it is for, but this

Now that I've overanalyzed my feelings? Tense, anxious. And started to feel psychogenic pain while I was managing okay before. Not sure who it is for, but this kind of "reification of feelings" (as colors, shapes, monsters or anthropomorphizations) has never helped me and only made it worse. It either increases my anxiety, or turns it to hopelesness (in the way of "I'm so far gone I'm wasting time doing this because there's nothing to actually help me") or at best I can ignore it and move on. The website looks great, and looks like a lot of work was put into it so I'm sorry I'm putting it down, but the concept itself is... in my case, a literal pain.

multiplegeorges 4y ago
I would argue that this reaction shows that the exercise was extremely useful for you and should probably be done with the participation of a professional. > "I'm so far gone I'm wasting time doing this because there's nothing to actually help me" No one is too far gone and this exercise literally helped you feel your feelings. That's a good thing, even if it doesn't feel comfortable in the immediate.
- mixedCase 4y ago
  > and this exercise literally helped you feel your feelings. That's a good thing How? I gain no insight from it. When I'm feeling like shit, I don't need additional help in feeling like shit, it's never helped me "process it". When I'm feeling okay, I don't need to go through the pain as a routine needlessly as some people suggest. What kind of life is that? I'm doing okay nowadays in part because I've managed to shove my emotions out of the way once I acknowledge they're only a signal to a real problem that I can either do something about or I can do absolutely nothing about, and once that's determined the emotion as a signal is useless and knowing that helps me set it aside and focus on what I want in life and determining a purpose. But that practice of dwelling on my emotions and reflecting on "how I felt" held me back for a long time, and that's why I had the need to comment at all. While this kind of thing may help a lot of people it's important for some to hear "yeah this might not work for you at all, might even be worse, don't waste time if it doesn't work for you, there are other ways".
jrochkind1 4y ago
I quoted from the self-helpy book I happen to be reading right now, _Your Resonant Self_ by Sarah Peyton, earlier in the thread, but I'm gonna do it again here too, take it or leave it! A lot of the book is about learning to be gentle and compassionate and supporting of yourself. > So why don't people talk about their emotions, if it is so helpful? There can be very good reasons that people have turned off the part of their brain that tells them about their body's emotional response to the world. If a person's skull-brain has no way to respond to messages from the body-brain (for example, if the burning, bubbling, cramping, twisting sensations that come with intense emotions have never been acknowledged, or if every one of these unchanging sensations feels like a driving hunger or a craving for an addictive substance), then a person may need to learn to ignore the body-brain. In other words, if emotions are an unbearable trip to unrecoverable emotional hell, then turning off body sensations can help people manage their world. It can be a solid survival strategy to have no idea what is happening in the body. Connection with the body can be unendurable. So it is important to take this journey slowly and acknolwedge that reading about this information may seem simple and unemotional but can awaken old trauma and restimulate old pain. > If you find this to be true for you, slow down. If we move slowly enough, we can simultaneously build a capacity for resonant, calming response at the same time that we awaken the voice of the body.

multiplegeorges 4y ago

I would argue that this reaction shows that the exercise was extremely useful for you and should probably be done with the participation of a professional. > "I'm so far gone I'm wasting time doing this because there's nothing to actually help me" No one is too far gone and this exercise literally helped you feel your feelings. That's a good thing, even if it doesn't feel comfortable in the immediate.

mixedCase 4y ago
> and this exercise literally helped you feel your feelings. That's a good thing How? I gain no insight from it. When I'm feeling like shit, I don't need additional help in feeling like shit, it's never helped me "process it". When I'm feeling okay, I don't need to go through the pain as a routine needlessly as some people suggest. What kind of life is that? I'm doing okay nowadays in part because I've managed to shove my emotions out of the way once I acknowledge they're only a signal to a real problem that I can either do something about or I can do absolutely nothing about, and once that's determined the emotion as a signal is useless and knowing that helps me set it aside and focus on what I want in life and determining a purpose. But that practice of dwelling on my emotions and reflecting on "how I felt" held me back for a long time, and that's why I had the need to comment at all. While this kind of thing may help a lot of people it's important for some to hear "yeah this might not work for you at all, might even be worse, don't waste time if it doesn't work for you, there are other ways".

jrochkind1 4y ago

I quoted from the self-helpy book I happen to be reading right now, _Your Resonant Self_ by Sarah Peyton, earlier in the thread, but I'm gonna do it again here too, take it or leave it! A lot of the book is about learning to be gentle and compassionate and supporting of yourself. > So why don't people talk about their emotions, if it is so helpful? There can be very good reasons that people have turned off the part of their brain that tells them about their body's emotional response to the world. If a person's skull-brain has no way to respond to messages from the body-brain (for example, if the burning, bubbling, cramping, twisting sensations that come with intense emotions have never been acknowledged, or if every one of these unchanging sensations feels like a driving hunger or a craving for an addictive substance), then a person may need to learn to ignore the body-brain. In other words, if emotions are an unbearable trip to unrecoverable emotional hell, then turning off body sensations can help people manage their world. It can be a solid survival strategy to have no idea what is happening in the body. Connection with the body can be unendurable. So it is important to take this journey slowly and acknolwedge that reading about this information may seem simple and unemotional but can awaken old trauma and restimulate old pain. > If you find this to be true for you, slow down. If we move slowly enough, we can simultaneously build a capacity for resonant, calming response at the same time that we awaken the voice of the body.