When you abuse someone they'll say anything in order to get you to go away and stop. What they actually believe becomes immaterial. You wanted them to get vacc

When you abuse someone they'll say anything in order to get you to go away and stop. What they actually believe becomes immaterial. You wanted them to get vaccinated. You failed to convince them that it was in their best interests. So you started attempting to force them. You tried to remove them from friends and family, to prevent them from finding work, to prevent them from accessing escape hatches such as travel. You posted adverts - "get vaccinated to avoid lockdown". The list goes on. Do what I say, or I'll punish you. All of this is still raw and visceral in my mind. It's not fading. They didn't want that. So they banded together and started grasping onto anything that would allow them to simply say - "No." That might be no to the vaccine. It might be no to one way systems. It might just be "no" to forced isolation. Ultimately, they said no. You may feel that in the jumbled nonsense they expressed to you, in anger, as a substitute for a boundary, ignorance was expressed. But ultimately you wouldn't recognise their boundaries, you saw them only as an extension of yourself to be manipulated at will. That's patronising, regardless of the terminology used.