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> Before someone comments about "go to a rock climbing gym" or "go to a coffee shop" - I tried all of those things. It's not that simple. An office job is a ver

> Before someone comments about "go to a rock climbing gym" or "go to a coffee shop" - I tried all of those things. It's not that simple. An office job is a very consistent way to talk to another human person in real life. There's something to be said for joining a club or joining a church if so inclined. It's much easier to create a community once you get rolling, but very hard to get started. Getting a job in an office is good, it'll help build friendships. I'd just caution against that being the only community you're apart of. I personally try to be apart of 3-4 communities, it keeps me busy and makes my life more robust if one community is impacted. "Rock climbing", "going to a coffee shop", isn't a community - those are effectively solo activities. You may get some human contact, but it's not someone you can call when you're sick.

meken 4y ago
What’s an example of a club you have in mind?
- citilife 4y ago
  Depends on your area: board game clubs are common in cities, shooting clubs are common in the country, a soccer club, what ever. It really depends on your interests, but there's bound to be something where people gather on a regular cadence and you can join.
- rtontic 4y ago
  A bit late reply, but dancing classes. I have met a lot of people in my salsa class, we organize parties from time to time.
julianlam 4y ago
> "Rock climbing" ... [is] effectively solo I disagree with this one, though. It depends on how you look at it. Rock climbing CAN be an activity you go to, put earbuds in, and block out the rest of the world, and sure, many do... but if you approach it with an open mindset, talk to others at the gym, make friends, then you are already ahead of the game, because those friends already share your same hobby (vs. finding a friend at a social event). Anecdata: - My cousin started rock climbing because of her fiance. His entire wedding party was made up of rock climbing friends - Another two friends I know from the gym met at said gym and got hitched - Dissatisfied with the "phone number whiteboard", I started a local discord group which now spans two gyms, we chat online but meet up when convenient. I found one of my very good friends from that group.

meken 4y ago

What’s an example of a club you have in mind?

citilife 4y ago
Depends on your area: board game clubs are common in cities, shooting clubs are common in the country, a soccer club, what ever. It really depends on your interests, but there's bound to be something where people gather on a regular cadence and you can join.
rtontic 4y ago
A bit late reply, but dancing classes. I have met a lot of people in my salsa class, we organize parties from time to time.

julianlam 4y ago

> "Rock climbing" ... [is] effectively solo I disagree with this one, though. It depends on how you look at it. Rock climbing CAN be an activity you go to, put earbuds in, and block out the rest of the world, and sure, many do... but if you approach it with an open mindset, talk to others at the gym, make friends, then you are already ahead of the game, because those friends already share your same hobby (vs. finding a friend at a social event). Anecdata: - My cousin started rock climbing because of her fiance. His entire wedding party was made up of rock climbing friends - Another two friends I know from the gym met at said gym and got hitched - Dissatisfied with the "phone number whiteboard", I started a local discord group which now spans two gyms, we chat online but meet up when convenient. I found one of my very good friends from that group.