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It’s also about emotional and social skills. Each generation since at least the 1950s has gotten more isolated and less able to understand and healthily process

It’s also about emotional and social skills. Each generation since at least the 1950s has gotten more isolated and less able to understand and healthily process their own emotions.

oneoff786 4y ago
The 50s is your benchmark for emotional intelligence among men?
- solarmist 4y ago
  LOL! Wow, no. It's just an anchor point that stuck in my mind. The traditions of the nuclear family and religion in the US have been declining, and the '50s are often mentioned as an inflection point. There are many good reasons (for example, no longer being bound to toxic spouses/family members) it has been declining. Not coincidentally, many social and emotional skills are declining along with them. It takes a lot of work and skills to get along with people, esp. ones who are unpleasant to you, or keep connections with many acquaintances.
supertrope 4y ago
My kid’s school seems to primarily teach handling emotions, social procedure, and executive function.
- solarmist 4y ago
  What kind of school teaches emotional regulation or social procedures? The only social/emotional skills I learned in school were how to follow directions and not be a nuisance.
  - supertrope 4y ago
    A public school in a upper middle class district. There's no standalone emotions class. It's stuff like teaching kids to say thank you, take the time to think before giving into a knee jerk reaction, consider positive and negative consequences of each choice, recognizing triggers for anger, imagine walking in other people's shoes for a day, making plans instead of ignoring a problem or deadline in hopes it will go away, etc. "Character education" is suppose to be part of every class, analogous to "writing across the curriculum" and teaching critical thinking. Yes there is overlap with just making kids easier to handle and push through the pipeline.
    - rahimnathwani 4y ago
      The book How Children Succeed may be good for anyone interested in more about executive function and character education.

It’s also about emotional and social skills. Each generation since at least the 1950s has gotten more isolated and less able to understand and healthily process their own emotions.

oneoff786 4y ago

The 50s is your benchmark for emotional intelligence among men?

solarmist 4y ago
LOL! Wow, no. It's just an anchor point that stuck in my mind. The traditions of the nuclear family and religion in the US have been declining, and the '50s are often mentioned as an inflection point. There are many good reasons (for example, no longer being bound to toxic spouses/family members) it has been declining. Not coincidentally, many social and emotional skills are declining along with them. It takes a lot of work and skills to get along with people, esp. ones who are unpleasant to you, or keep connections with many acquaintances.

supertrope 4y ago

My kid’s school seems to primarily teach handling emotions, social procedure, and executive function.

solarmist 4y ago
What kind of school teaches emotional regulation or social procedures? The only social/emotional skills I learned in school were how to follow directions and not be a nuisance.
- supertrope 4y ago
  A public school in a upper middle class district. There's no standalone emotions class. It's stuff like teaching kids to say thank you, take the time to think before giving into a knee jerk reaction, consider positive and negative consequences of each choice, recognizing triggers for anger, imagine walking in other people's shoes for a day, making plans instead of ignoring a problem or deadline in hopes it will go away, etc. "Character education" is suppose to be part of every class, analogous to "writing across the curriculum" and teaching critical thinking. Yes there is overlap with just making kids easier to handle and push through the pipeline.
  - rahimnathwani 4y ago
    The book How Children Succeed may be good for anyone interested in more about executive function and character education.