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Please talk to someone if you are feeling hopeless. U.S. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 800-273-TALK (8255) National Suicide Helpline UK 0800 689 5652

Please talk to someone if you are feeling hopeless. U.S. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 800-273-TALK (8255) National Suicide Helpline UK 0800 689 5652 His HN profile was also just his name https://news.ycombinator.com/user?id=chrisseaton https://news.ycombinator.com/user?id=chrisseaton I wish the best for his family and friends over the next few months. This will be a tough holiday season for them. You never know what is going on in someone's life and no clue what was going on in his but I think working in tech is harder than people recognize / give credit (and may not have any bearing on Chris, I am not trying to speculate). Please talk to someone if you are feeling hopeless. U.S. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 800-273-TALK (8255) National Suicide Helpline UK 0800 689 5652

naedish 4y ago
Support services for other countries below. https://meta.m.wikimedia.org/wiki/Mental_health_resources https://meta.m.wikimedia.org/wiki/Mental_health_resources
toomuchtodo 4y ago
You can also dial or text 988 in the US. https://988lifeline.org/ https://988lifeline.org/
noneeeed 4y ago
In the UK the Samaritans how have a short number 116 123.
altendo 4y ago
In the US, dialing 988 will also get you access to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. (Technically it is now the 988 Lifeline, but they both refer to the same thing[1].) 1: https://988lifeline.org/current-events/the-lifeline-and-988/ https://988lifeline.org/current-events/the-lifeline-and-988/
adamc 4y ago
Having been on the other end of it... the reality is harsh. People say they want to know, but in fact... they mostly don't. The reality of it is hard to deal with. It can go on and on. People have a lot of misconceptions, sometimes for good reasons (it makes life easier to endure). It's a lot like the pushback on #metoo or #blacklivesmatter or <almost anything linked to traumatic experience>. They want to make it your fault because then its not something they have to think about. I think depression is mostly orthogonal to where you work, although stress may make it worse.
- silisili 4y ago
  I agree with this. Someone reaching out because they have a problem or need someone to talk to is perfectly welcomed. Someone who does so daily becomes a big f'ing drag on your life, pardon the expression. My father did that to us kids after divorce, and our relationship has never been the same. (For those curious, he didn't hurt himself, just became an angry, sad, drunk yearslong drag on us all).
  - Jensson 4y ago
    - silisili 4y ago
      I'd have preferred he not leave drunken angry voicemails every time I didn't answer the phone, and sought professional help. Which he did, eventually, but after 2 years of verbal abuse and telling us we were dead to him.
      - Jensson 4y ago
        adamc 4y ago
        As someone who's been through depression and has an estranged son (for reasons that were never even articulated)... being angry doesn't help. Their choices may be no more free than our own. Sometimes the universe gives us tough choices.
        Jensson 4y ago
        Depressed people often do a lot of things they later regret. Doesn't mean they could have done it any other way, just that would prefer to not have done it. > Sometimes the universe gives us tough choices. Yeah, like accepting when an asshole reaches out or letting him kill himself. I don't think it is wrong to try to reach out when you are too mentally unstable to be nice to people, in fact that is probably the time when you should reach out the most because you are very likely to kill yourself then because that anger can easily turn inwards. But there really are no perfect ways to handle that, the best solution is to never get that bad to begin with but when you are there you can't really get out of it without burning something.
zwaps 4y ago
If you are struggling with self-worth, please read very carefully the posts of people who actually knew Chris Seaton. People value him by how much of himself and his time he was willing to give to others, not by some absolute measure of his skill. This is a capacity everyone has. In fact, you probably have touched someone (if unknowingly) in a similar manner. People who decide to go, very very often leave behind a heart shattered to pieces - unknowingly.

naedish 4y ago

Support services for other countries below. https://meta.m.wikimedia.org/wiki/Mental_health_resources https://meta.m.wikimedia.org/wiki/Mental_health_resources

toomuchtodo 4y ago

You can also dial or text 988 in the US. https://988lifeline.org/ https://988lifeline.org/

noneeeed 4y ago

In the UK the Samaritans how have a short number 116 123.

altendo 4y ago

In the US, dialing 988 will also get you access to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. (Technically it is now the 988 Lifeline, but they both refer to the same thing[1].) 1: https://988lifeline.org/current-events/the-lifeline-and-988/ https://988lifeline.org/current-events/the-lifeline-and-988/

adamc 4y ago

Having been on the other end of it... the reality is harsh. People say they want to know, but in fact... they mostly don't. The reality of it is hard to deal with. It can go on and on. People have a lot of misconceptions, sometimes for good reasons (it makes life easier to endure). It's a lot like the pushback on #metoo or #blacklivesmatter or <almost anything linked to traumatic experience>. They want to make it your fault because then its not something they have to think about. I think depression is mostly orthogonal to where you work, although stress may make it worse.

silisili 4y ago
I agree with this. Someone reaching out because they have a problem or need someone to talk to is perfectly welcomed. Someone who does so daily becomes a big f'ing drag on your life, pardon the expression. My father did that to us kids after divorce, and our relationship has never been the same. (For those curious, he didn't hurt himself, just became an angry, sad, drunk yearslong drag on us all).
- Jensson 4y ago
  - silisili 4y ago
    I'd have preferred he not leave drunken angry voicemails every time I didn't answer the phone, and sought professional help. Which he did, eventually, but after 2 years of verbal abuse and telling us we were dead to him.
    - Jensson 4y ago
      - adamc 4y ago
        As someone who's been through depression and has an estranged son (for reasons that were never even articulated)... being angry doesn't help. Their choices may be no more free than our own. Sometimes the universe gives us tough choices.
        Jensson 4y ago
        Depressed people often do a lot of things they later regret. Doesn't mean they could have done it any other way, just that would prefer to not have done it. > Sometimes the universe gives us tough choices. Yeah, like accepting when an asshole reaches out or letting him kill himself. I don't think it is wrong to try to reach out when you are too mentally unstable to be nice to people, in fact that is probably the time when you should reach out the most because you are very likely to kill yourself then because that anger can easily turn inwards. But there really are no perfect ways to handle that, the best solution is to never get that bad to begin with but when you are there you can't really get out of it without burning something.

zwaps 4y ago

If you are struggling with self-worth, please read very carefully the posts of people who actually knew Chris Seaton. People value him by how much of himself and his time he was willing to give to others, not by some absolute measure of his skill. This is a capacity everyone has. In fact, you probably have touched someone (if unknowingly) in a similar manner. People who decide to go, very very often leave behind a heart shattered to pieces - unknowingly.