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You know there are whole academic fields which go beyond, "women are different" and actually try to understand human behavior? Maybe you should question why you

You know there are whole academic fields which go beyond, "women are different" and actually try to understand human behavior? Maybe you should question why you have this reaction of wanting to shut down such discussion when it goes beyond what you were told was acceptable speech.

dutchCourage 4y ago
This article and the comments remind me of what I used to think as a sheltered teenager before I actually got to hang out with women and realized they're just other humans. I'd venture to say that what women are looking for is defined much more by their environment than their biology. And that it's wildly different for each of them. Now if someone wants to try to understand what motivates women they're welcome to do it. I never said it wasn't acceptable to do so. It's going to be hard though, because there are a lot of women out there with a lot of different motivations. But this just looks like someone trying to explain why "smart/nice" guys can't get laid, wrapped in a pseudo scientific method.
- antisthenes 4y ago
  Your comment just reads as a "just-so" story, which deems female behavior too difficult to study or understand. It's just as pseudo-scientific if not more than the attempts at explaining group behavior and mating preferences (not this article though, it's also trash). > I'd venture to say that what women are looking for is defined much more by their environment than their biology. It's the classic nature vs nurture argument, for which you conveniently provide no supporting evidence. Note that I don't claim either one to be dominant or correct over the other, while you do. The burden of proof here lies on you.
  - dutchCourage 4y ago
    > The burden of proof here lies on you. I'm trying to share why I think attempting to study women like they're birds is futile. I genuinely think men-women relationships don't work like that. But you're correct, I've done no scientific study. It's all based on personal experience. I'm only saying it because I think this approach leads to men being frustrated. I know I was.
- q1w2 4y ago
  > wrapped in a pseudo scientific method I think you missed the scientific papers he cited at the end. Your comments read overly cynical.

dutchCourage 4y ago

This article and the comments remind me of what I used to think as a sheltered teenager before I actually got to hang out with women and realized they're just other humans. I'd venture to say that what women are looking for is defined much more by their environment than their biology. And that it's wildly different for each of them. Now if someone wants to try to understand what motivates women they're welcome to do it. I never said it wasn't acceptable to do so. It's going to be hard though, because there are a lot of women out there with a lot of different motivations. But this just looks like someone trying to explain why "smart/nice" guys can't get laid, wrapped in a pseudo scientific method.

antisthenes 4y ago
Your comment just reads as a "just-so" story, which deems female behavior too difficult to study or understand. It's just as pseudo-scientific if not more than the attempts at explaining group behavior and mating preferences (not this article though, it's also trash). > I'd venture to say that what women are looking for is defined much more by their environment than their biology. It's the classic nature vs nurture argument, for which you conveniently provide no supporting evidence. Note that I don't claim either one to be dominant or correct over the other, while you do. The burden of proof here lies on you.
- dutchCourage 4y ago
  > The burden of proof here lies on you. I'm trying to share why I think attempting to study women like they're birds is futile. I genuinely think men-women relationships don't work like that. But you're correct, I've done no scientific study. It's all based on personal experience. I'm only saying it because I think this approach leads to men being frustrated. I know I was.
q1w2 4y ago
> wrapped in a pseudo scientific method I think you missed the scientific papers he cited at the end. Your comments read overly cynical.