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I know it’s sad and scary to get death threats. But having a gay guy have a wide following of women in love with him is hilarious

ChrisMarshallNY 4y ago
> But having a gay guy have a wide following of women in love with him is hilarious Women loved Rock Hudson. I think there are a number of gay women stars that are quite popular with men. Social media is very weird. People can have entire friendships, romances, and work relationships, without meeting the other person. I had a friend whose wife left him for an online relationship. She got to the other state, met the guy (it was not a scam), and then things didn't work out. By then, however, it was too late. Best thing that could have happened to him. He's been happily married to another person for many years.
- lelanthran 4y ago
  > Best thing that could have happened to him. Yup. IME, the best way for a spouse to leave you is for someone else. When they have someone that they're in a hurry to settle down with, they're unlikely to argue over splitting of assets, or custody of pets, or access to children, because they want the process over as soon as possible. When they are leaving you because they are unhappy with you, then they'll argue over every single petty and trivial thing, and drag out the process for two years. Sure, it may hurt more when you find out that they've been cheating, but that will still be less painful when they take out their frustration with you using the kids visitation schedule.
  - achenet 4y ago
    no, my Dad and Mom split because Mom found out Dad had been having an affair, had gotten HIV and made a baby with another woman, and they're still fighting over small stuff, literally 19 years later. Just don't get married, ever.
not2b 4y ago
It doesn't surprise me. Especially among men over 40, on average gay men pay much more attention to their appearance, grooming, etc. than straight men, because men whether gay or straight tend to be more visually oriented than women and looks matter to the people they want to attract. Of course like any generalization there are many exceptions to this.
- logicallee 4y ago
  I agree there are many exceptions and we have to be careful about generalizing. It's an interesting explanation. (That gay men pay more attention to their appearance than straight men because they want to be attractive to men rather than women, and men both gay and straight are more visually oriented than women.) This theory would predict that gay women would pay much less attention to their own appearance than straight women do (since the women they want to attract care less about looks than men do). Do you think that's the case?
  - achenet 4y ago
    mmm... from what I've seen gay women (i.e. lesbians) tend to have rather noticable appearances - either rather butch/masculine, or somewhat 'freaky'. There are exceptions, where they just go for "comfy", however.
- MikePlacid 4y ago
  >among men over 40, on average gay men pay much more attention to their appearance, grooming, etc. than straight men Men over 40 do not need to pay any attention to their appearance, grooming etc. They just need to not wear a wedding ring. (Ask me how I know...)
- hoseja 4y ago
  Women may take interest in pictures of a well-groomed gay man. But they would absolutely NOT tolerate their partner actually spend more time fussing about his appearance than them. Instant ick. Feminine behaviour.
  - 4y ago

ChrisMarshallNY 4y ago

> But having a gay guy have a wide following of women in love with him is hilarious Women loved Rock Hudson. I think there are a number of gay women stars that are quite popular with men. Social media is very weird. People can have entire friendships, romances, and work relationships, without meeting the other person. I had a friend whose wife left him for an online relationship. She got to the other state, met the guy (it was not a scam), and then things didn't work out. By then, however, it was too late. Best thing that could have happened to him. He's been happily married to another person for many years.

lelanthran 4y ago
> Best thing that could have happened to him. Yup. IME, the best way for a spouse to leave you is for someone else. When they have someone that they're in a hurry to settle down with, they're unlikely to argue over splitting of assets, or custody of pets, or access to children, because they want the process over as soon as possible. When they are leaving you because they are unhappy with you, then they'll argue over every single petty and trivial thing, and drag out the process for two years. Sure, it may hurt more when you find out that they've been cheating, but that will still be less painful when they take out their frustration with you using the kids visitation schedule.
- achenet 4y ago
  no, my Dad and Mom split because Mom found out Dad had been having an affair, had gotten HIV and made a baby with another woman, and they're still fighting over small stuff, literally 19 years later. Just don't get married, ever.

not2b 4y ago

It doesn't surprise me. Especially among men over 40, on average gay men pay much more attention to their appearance, grooming, etc. than straight men, because men whether gay or straight tend to be more visually oriented than women and looks matter to the people they want to attract. Of course like any generalization there are many exceptions to this.

logicallee 4y ago
I agree there are many exceptions and we have to be careful about generalizing. It's an interesting explanation. (That gay men pay more attention to their appearance than straight men because they want to be attractive to men rather than women, and men both gay and straight are more visually oriented than women.) This theory would predict that gay women would pay much less attention to their own appearance than straight women do (since the women they want to attract care less about looks than men do). Do you think that's the case?
- achenet 4y ago
  mmm... from what I've seen gay women (i.e. lesbians) tend to have rather noticable appearances - either rather butch/masculine, or somewhat 'freaky'. There are exceptions, where they just go for "comfy", however.
MikePlacid 4y ago
>among men over 40, on average gay men pay much more attention to their appearance, grooming, etc. than straight men Men over 40 do not need to pay any attention to their appearance, grooming etc. They just need to not wear a wedding ring. (Ask me how I know...)
hoseja 4y ago
Women may take interest in pictures of a well-groomed gay man. But they would absolutely NOT tolerate their partner actually spend more time fussing about his appearance than them. Instant ick. Feminine behaviour.
- 4y ago