>consult with actual parents for what it’s really like to have kids. There's an interesting wrinkle into the answer you get, however. If you ask parents in one

>consult with actual parents for what it’s really like to have kids. There's an interesting wrinkle into the answer you get, however. If you ask parents in one environment (say, at the workplace) about their thoughts on children they will often be different than asking about them in the act of raising those children. There is often an irreconcilable difference between our experience in the moment and how we later remember that experience. It's possible to be quite miserable raising children and still think back on it fondly. I'm not sure what that implies on the advice of consulting actual parents unless you know which you would prefer optimizing for.