> Immersed in violent, degrading pornography, the expectations of many men regarding sex are now incompatible with women who want a loving relationship in which

> Immersed in violent, degrading pornography, the expectations of many men regarding sex are now incompatible with women who want a loving relationship in which to raise a family. This is just traditional gender roles applied to the bedroom. There are certainly women (and men) who want nothing except gentle, loving sex. But that's not universal for either gender. Likewise for any fetish you can name. The trick is finding someone who you overlap with enough to make things work, which is why "no sex before marriage" seems so self-defeating to me.