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I love wrastling toddlers, too. I wanted to say—these two lifestyles you describe (raves and toddlers) are not incompatible. I’ve had to get better at scheduli
by dr_dshiv 4y ago
I love wrastling toddlers, too.
I wanted to say—these two lifestyles you describe (raves and toddlers) are not incompatible. I’ve had to get better at scheduling and communication, that’s all.
For me, it was really helpful to develop concrete agreements with my partner. (E.g., I get to travel 8 weeks a year, I have to schedule 1 month in advance, and it can be for any reason). I don’t like the view that having kids means giving up on what you love to do in life.
4th kid is on the way. Seems nutso to me, but because my wife really wanted another. And if that is her dream, I am not going to stand in her way.
- lotsofpulp 4y ago> I don’t like the view that having kids means giving up on what you love to do in life. Is there anyone other than you and your spouse helping raise the children? Does your spouse work? Lots of people do not have support from friends or family. Being able to take off while spouse is pregnant and taking care of 3 other kids is surely an abnormal situation.
- dr_dshiv 4y agoA parent being able to travel for a few days while one parent manages the kids is not abnormal. She took a weekend recently and left me with the 3 kids. It was fun and honestly more relaxed than most weekends. Maybe importantly is our spacing — 13, 10 and 3. Not saying 3 toddlers.
- lotsofpulp 4y agoOh, the ages change everything, since the 13 and 10 year old are basically capable of handling themselves and helping.