Probably also worth consulting with someone in their 50s that hasn't had kids. Having kids when you have an active social life seems like everything grinds to

Probably also worth consulting with someone in their 50s that hasn't had kids. Having kids when you have an active social life seems like everything grinds to a half. NOT having kids when everyone you used to hang out with does is suddenly busy, on the other hand, is its own can of worms. At different age brackets, "normal social life" tends to look different -- and it varies by class and geography as well.