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> but Japanese people will go extremely out of their way to help you You are setting an expectation.

• mynameisvlad 4y ago
  I am anecdotally pointing out my experiences, which explicitly go against the comment I replied to which makes it seem like you will die on the streets in Japan if you wander too much. Sorry not sorry that my experiences irritate you so much. And, once again: What, exactly, would you prefer? A gaijin in the middle of Kyoto wailing about not being able to get back to their hostel because they’re too scared to approach a local? That person never even experiencing Japan because they’re too scared they’re going to get lost and be beaten to death by the horrible locals?
• cstrahan 4y ago
  By this reasoning, if anyone asks you how you feel about someone you love/respect/admire/etc, you should refuse to speak of any significant qualities they posses. “Hey, I haven’t met your wife/husband yet, but if they’re anything like you, they must be a quality person, and can’t wait for you to introduce me to them!” — “Oh, yeah. I mean, they’re definitely a human being, just like me, if that’s what you mean. And they, like… eat, drink, sleep — all the usual human being things, you know.” Sounds like a bleak way to relate to others, downplaying your feelings out of fear that someone will irrationally believe they are entitled to similar experiences with said person. Maybe we should expect people to not feel entitled, instead of desiring that people would bottle up how they feel.