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I think it's more about shared experience, or lack thereof. More and more, we are able to choose our own reality -- which "news" we subscribe to, which online
by montroser 4y ago
I think it's more about shared experience, or lack thereof.
More and more, we are able to choose our own reality -- which "news" we subscribe to, which online groups we participate in, which games we play, etc. Two people in the same household, same room even, may have extremely different experiences each on their own device, and then have a diminished ability to process together.
It's a very different life from say, 30 years ago, when there were three or four major news networks, HBO for movies, a single TV in the house, a handful of print newspapers wherever you lived, people even going to places like church (which has its own set of tradeoffs). People in this world had a set of communal shared experience, apparently because they could not choose otherwise, like we can do now.
- jvm___ 4y agoThis is my main complaint in marriage, we don't visually see or listen to almost anything the same. We only overlap in the physical world, not TV/YouTube or music. I'm on Reddit/hacker News/YouTube and she's on Instagram/Facebook. She's the primary watcher of our Netflix and Disney accounts. The Netflix account shows 8,000+ videos watched over the years, primarily by her. It's hard to have even a 5 minute conversation about non house/kids things if you never share visual/audio/mental reality.
- Broken_Hippo 4y agoThat's not marriage, that is your marriage. My partner and I have no issues with this. We talk about stuff each other didn't watch, too, if we found something interesting to talk about. We watched soem of the same things before we lived in the same country, too, and online blends seamlessly into real space easily. Of course, we don't have children so that might be a major difference.
- jvm___ 4y agoAh, I dropped a word. Thanks. MY marriage
- skelpmargyar 4y agoSo why don't you just read/watch the same stuff together?