I am on both sides of this. Thanks to significant feelings of inadequacy and social anxiety, I have a tendency to seek out "shareable" (excellent term for this)

I am on both sides of this. Thanks to significant feelings of inadequacy and social anxiety, I have a tendency to seek out "shareable" (excellent term for this) hobbies and activities so that I do have "interesting" stuff to talk about. At the same time, I recognize that I'm doing this partially to fill a psychological void in myself. (Only partially because I am actually authentically deeply into these interests as well. I'm not a completely shallow person.) So when talking to people, I try to not overfit and focus on my more obvious conversation-worthy pursuits. But I also don't want to just be boring either and talk about nothing. When I think about my favorite conversations with other people, it's rarely about what they have been doing. Instead, it's people that do normal stuff, but have particularly keen or funny insights on it. So that's what I aim for: to talk about the everday minutiae of life, but hopefully in a way that's a little more perceptive, or unusual or something.