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From their accusation: there is clearly a long history of this happening in the context of this person driving. You've left out all of the history and context.

From their accusation: there is clearly a long history of this happening in the context of this person driving. You've left out all of the history and context. You even left out your relationship to this person. This could be a friend, coworker, spouse or your child. Your relationship to this person matters especially because their words might not be literal. "You're always criticizing my driving" might mean "You always criticize me" in general. Or it might mean "You don't trust my judgement". Or it might mean "You have financial control over my life and I'm just now at my breaking point." Most importantly, I don't want to know the details and HN isn't the place for these threads. But if I were you I'd evaluate my entire relationship to this person rather than this one summer downtown drive.

incomingpain 4y ago
>From their accusation: there is clearly a long history of this happening in the context of this person driving. I was told later, they had changed their meds but never got into what this meant. Certainly not a long history, but certainly i have given tips before. >Your relationship to this person matters especially because their words might not be literal. "You're always criticizing my driving" might mean "You always criticize me" in general. Or it might mean "You don't trust my judgement". Or it might mean "You have financial control over my life and I'm just now at my breaking point." This is the other one which has come up before. "You dont trust my judgement" but like... I don't know where its coming from. The thing is, I actively avoid criticism as much as possible. Dale Carnegie style. Never ever works. I never really criticized the way they drove, I was only giving them help. Totally not judgmental. I guess I understand relationship matters but this would confuse things more.

incomingpain 4y ago

>From their accusation: there is clearly a long history of this happening in the context of this person driving. I was told later, they had changed their meds but never got into what this meant. Certainly not a long history, but certainly i have given tips before. >Your relationship to this person matters especially because their words might not be literal. "You're always criticizing my driving" might mean "You always criticize me" in general. Or it might mean "You don't trust my judgement". Or it might mean "You have financial control over my life and I'm just now at my breaking point." This is the other one which has come up before. "You dont trust my judgement" but like... I don't know where its coming from. The thing is, I actively avoid criticism as much as possible. Dale Carnegie style. Never ever works. I never really criticized the way they drove, I was only giving them help. Totally not judgmental. I guess I understand relationship matters but this would confuse things more.