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(there are 300+ comments and I have only skimmed) Q: Is there not a single (former) bully who is reading it who can share why they did what they did? Being a sh

(there are 300+ comments and I have only skimmed) Q: Is there not a single (former) bully who is reading it who can share why they did what they did? Being a short guy and a motormouth, I got bullied aplenty (perhaps beaten up is the correct word), but I want to believe that it didn't leave any long-term effects. But then I do have a short fuse and I procrastinate like there's always a tomorrow. So maybe, my self-analysis is all wrong.

ace2358 4y ago
Interesting question! I’ll speak up. Context: Australian, male, went to shitty public school in an old and wealthy suburb that had a dozen private schools and 1 public school. I was from a dysfunctional family with a lot at home issues. I wasn’t smart or hard working and because of my metabolism and genetics, I was obese until about 18 when my body started to mature (later compared to my peers). I got bullied. Hard. By my peers at school. By kids at my games of basketball on the weekend. By my friends. By my brothers and by my father. I’m talking about every day comments about my weight. My smell. My family. My unattractive body. My fat dumb face etc. (Verbal, never got into a violet situation). What ended up happening is that I began to bully back. I would say nasty things back to people. I would pick things up from South Park. I would knock kids books off the table. Draw on lockers with (poorly) drawn male genitalia. Ultimately, it felt like the normal thing to do. Just be a total fucking prick to everyone. I’ve changed a lot since then. I personally can’t stand being around verbal conflict or even consume media that makes fun of people. I find a lot of modern ‘comedy’ to be a form a Bullying to someone somewhere. I’m personally very sorry to my family and friends I still have for my actions that time. And I’m personally very sensitive to witnessing these behaviours. In my life I try my best to be kind and considerate. I try not to judge people and keep my negative thoughts to my self. I never wanted to be a bully. Looking back I feel as though I was just fitting in.
- 4gotunameagain 4y ago
  Redirected aggression in baboons has been proven to reduce stress hormones. I also redirected my aggression to weaker kids in school, and I also got redirected aggression from stronger kids. We need to accept that in many cases we are not better than baboons, and try to find ways to accommodate our primal behaviours, not ignore them or pretend that we are so superior as a species.

ace2358 4y ago

Interesting question! I’ll speak up. Context: Australian, male, went to shitty public school in an old and wealthy suburb that had a dozen private schools and 1 public school. I was from a dysfunctional family with a lot at home issues. I wasn’t smart or hard working and because of my metabolism and genetics, I was obese until about 18 when my body started to mature (later compared to my peers). I got bullied. Hard. By my peers at school. By kids at my games of basketball on the weekend. By my friends. By my brothers and by my father. I’m talking about every day comments about my weight. My smell. My family. My unattractive body. My fat dumb face etc. (Verbal, never got into a violet situation). What ended up happening is that I began to bully back. I would say nasty things back to people. I would pick things up from South Park. I would knock kids books off the table. Draw on lockers with (poorly) drawn male genitalia. Ultimately, it felt like the normal thing to do. Just be a total fucking prick to everyone. I’ve changed a lot since then. I personally can’t stand being around verbal conflict or even consume media that makes fun of people. I find a lot of modern ‘comedy’ to be a form a Bullying to someone somewhere. I’m personally very sorry to my family and friends I still have for my actions that time. And I’m personally very sensitive to witnessing these behaviours. In my life I try my best to be kind and considerate. I try not to judge people and keep my negative thoughts to my self. I never wanted to be a bully. Looking back I feel as though I was just fitting in.

4gotunameagain 4y ago
Redirected aggression in baboons has been proven to reduce stress hormones. I also redirected my aggression to weaker kids in school, and I also got redirected aggression from stronger kids. We need to accept that in many cases we are not better than baboons, and try to find ways to accommodate our primal behaviours, not ignore them or pretend that we are so superior as a species.