I've been focusing on a very bottoms-up approach: how to respond to micro-attacks. So practicing responding to getting rejected, ignored, blamed, even idolized,

I've been focusing on a very bottoms-up approach: how to respond to micro-attacks. So practicing responding to getting rejected, ignored, blamed, even idolized, and complimented—anything that makes me want to disconnect more and more from the person and from myself. I've found that in getting better at these very simple, micro-interactions, I start to get better at the bigger things. One of the things I've noticed the most in classes is that being attacked is often a subjective experience from the receiver, often oblivious to the giver. I have people intentionally try to reject the other and it seems very uncomfortable to try to do it intentionally. Anyways, I find it neither dystopian nor hellish. One person who took a class said, "Jim, your workshop it f*cked my feelings but they needed it, thank you." I don't mean to advertise here, more just to say I believe there are ways to approach it that I feel excited about.