My dad passed away recently. My mom was constantly trying to cook for me. She did all the cooking for my dad. Was weird in that he wanted food cooked the sam

My dad passed away recently. My mom was constantly trying to cook for me. She did all the cooking for my dad. Was weird in that he wanted food cooked the same exact way as she had done for the last 48 years, no variation tolerated. Trouble being that she was is a terrible cook and he liked his food burnt to hell and loaded with sugar and massive quantities of taco seasoning. Pretty sure Taco Bell is healthier. So I ended up doing all the cooking. She seemed to make up for lack of cooking time by showing me things of his I might want for hours on end for multiple weeks. Me and siblings now have tons of boxes of stuff we don’t want. But it calmed her down for us to take it. I didn’t realize how important making the meals was to her. Not that she cares about the food. She knew it was terrible. She was excited to start eating the way she wants to. But 40+ years of habit is really hard to break. Side tip. We leaned hard way that social security survivor benefits and various pensions will stop immediately and take multiple months to switch to widow benefits. We got her covered. But was a nasty surprise.