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>Most people desire to be happy. I don't believe I need to prove this. Happy isn't a long term state of being. It's a short term emotion like anger or sadness.
by dimmke 4y ago
>Most people desire to be happy. I don't believe I need to prove this.
Happy isn't a long term state of being. It's a short term emotion like anger or sadness.
If you expect to feel that way all the time, and think you can achieve that through some kind of changes to your life you are setting yourself up for failure.
You should aim to build a life that is in line with your values, and accept that you're going to have down days. If you were to rate each day on a 1-10 scale, you're going to have 2s and 3s and probably some 8s and 9s. But if you've done the work, most days will be a solid 6 or 7.
And therapy. Therapy really helps. I think everybody should go to therapy.
- Towaway69 4y ago> And therapy. Therapy really helps. I think everybody should go to therapy Friends. I think everyone should have good friends they can talk to. If not, then go to therapy.
- dimmke 4y agoI think therapy provides benefits that friends don't/can't. Your therapist shouldn't be your friend. They're an objective outsider that can help give you new ways to think about your life.
- Towaway69 4y agoSome problems don't need a therapist, e.g. Problems with people can be best dealt with (sometimes) by talking to those very same people. I guess that's what I meant, some problems simply need good friends.
- noNothing 4y agoIf you go the therapist route, please change therapists until you find one that works well for you. Not all therapists work well with all people. Theoretically they should, but practilally they don't and the wrong therapist can be worse than no therapist.
- dimmke 4y agoGood disclaimer. I 100% agree.
- lukas099 4y agoA lot of friends are terrible therapists. They give bad advice, advice when you don't need it, victim-blame you (e.g. Job's friends from the Bible), etc. These can even be otherwise good friends.
- periphrasis 4y ago> Happy isn't a long term state of being. It's a short term emotion like anger or sadness. Counter point: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eudaimonia https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eudaimonia
- david-gpu 4y ago> Happy isn't a long term state of being. It's a short term emotion like anger or sadness. "Happy" is a vague overused term that means different things to different people at different times. While elation or euphoria are fleeting emotions, one can be content or satisfied for prolonged periods of time. It's a bit like confusing sadness and depression.
- karmakaze 4y ago> one can be content or satisfied for prolonged periods of time This is suspect. I couldn't imagine that any contentment or satisfaction that I experience now would last without additional activity to maintain it. The passage of time while doing nothing (or having no affect) is a clear way I can imagine leading to dissatisfaction.