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I don't think the problem is that you can't focus - the problem is that the reward isn't high enough. I know your post isn't money-related, but let me digress.
by xyzzy4747 4y ago
I don't think the problem is that you can't focus - the problem is that the reward isn't high enough.
I know your post isn't money-related, but let me digress. What is the point of fixing your procrastination? What goal are you really trying to achieve?
If you can't pay attention in project meetings, so what? It's not like you'll get a $100,000 bonus for doing so.
If there was a $10 million gold bar in the bottom of your backyard pond I don't think you'd procrastinate learning how and going about recovering it. It would probably occupy all your attention.
In my opinion the solution is to change your focus in life to things that pay out higher rewards. I.e. instead of paying more attention in meetings, do the minimum to not get fired and figure out ways to make more money (find another job, start a business, etc.). If your job is already high-paying then focus on things that are high impact on impressing your managers.
If the result of fixing your "procrastination" gives very negligible long-term financial benefits then it's not really worth it.
I also often don't listen to my wife - unintentionally - but it's because she often says things without a lot of substance. So it's hard for me to keep focus.
I've had lifelong procrastination issues too. Maybe I have an attention disorder as well (but undiagnosed). But I have a few million in my brokerage/retirement accounts, and my own startup with millions in funding, so do I care? Nope not really.
Anyways, my advice is to figure out where the metaphorical gold bars are and go after those instead.
- ghostbrainalpha 4y agoWhat's the startup if you don't mind sharing?
- lgleason 4y agoThat is not how ADHD works. A person with untreated ADHD will not improve much even with incentives like this without treatment. The problem is that when it is untreated the executive part of the brain is not firing correctly because of a chemical imbalance. The meds help to fix that.
- xyzzy4747 4y agoI'm not really sure about that. I used to have a full-time job out of college where sometimes I'd spend 30 minutes working per week. Serious, serious procrastination. Got panic attacks about it too. It took lots of introspection but eventually settled on "do one thing per day" for a while, i.e. the Seinfeld method, then eventually after a few years started job hopping. I was also actually diagnosed with bipolar - around the same time as the bad procrastination - but I stopped taking my meds a decade ago (against the wishes of my doctor) and I'm basically fine now.
- kstrauser 4y ago> If you can't pay attention in project meetings, so what? It's not like you'll get a $100,000 bonus for doing so. Yeah, but you also won't get that promotion if you can't focus on meetings, even though every part of you wishes you could.