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I think it would be a good idea to figure out exactly which part bothers you the most. Do you think you should get more money? Are you feeling like you have t
by pawn 15y ago
I think it would be a good idea to figure out exactly which part bothers you the most.
Do you think you should get more money?
Are you feeling like you have too much work to do and wish you could relax more?
Is it more about being jealous that your friend isn't working as much?
Those are three separate motivations with different answers.
Personally, I think I'd be pretty darned satisfied with the situation that you're in. But we live in different worlds and that's besides the point.
$250k seems like a lot of money to me. I make less than half of that and it's not my own projects working with my best friend. Realistically, I don't imagine you're going to feel the difference of the extra money you'd make from future projects between if you kept the money yourself and if you split it.
If you're feeling too busy, I would guess that giving him direction probably takes less energy than doing the work yourself. So you have to keep telling him what to do. Make it part of your routine and you'll be fine. If it's the same stuff every month, set up a script to automatically email him once a month.
If you're just jealous that he isn't working without being told what to do, you're going to have to decide whether that's a deal-breaker for your friendship. Some people don't innately have a built-in drive to do things on their own. He may grow out of that trait with time, but until then you can either put up with it or don't. For a best friend, I'd put up with it.
So, I'd say figure out which part is the root of your dissatisfaction and see if you can come to terms with that one thing.
- superasn 15y agoInitially I was a little afraid to share my problem like this here, but now I'm so glad I did. Your replies have really made it easier for me to think this through because just talking about it to someone has helped me a lot. > Some people don't innately have a built-in drive to do things on their own. > He may grow out of that trait with time, but until then you can either put up with it or don't. > For a best friend, I'd put up with it. This statement really resonated with me a lot. I don't think I'm going to do anything right now and just hope that he does something measurable for our business by the deadline I gave him. I do see him trying harder this time too. He himself has admitted that he doesn't have that built-in drive to do things on his own, but maybe like you said, he will grow out of it one day, especially if when I just leave him be for sometime. Your reply was very insightful and I may have some more thinking to do after all. Thanks.
- pawn 15y agoYou're welcome. I'm glad I helped! I wish you the best of luck and hope you can find peace with whatever the outcome turns out to be.