How to? Read philosophy. Introspect. Do stuff you love. You cannot compare yourself to anyone but a previous version of you. Even then, it's not helpful. You

How to? Read philosophy. Introspect. Do stuff you love. You cannot compare yourself to anyone but a previous version of you. Even then, it's not helpful. You don't need a win. You need to find meaning/purpose. That's how you win constantly. If your only purpose is to make money or be "successful" by a material definition, I'm afraid you'll be stuck in the rat race.